It Is Hard To Trust Someone
By Janeth
@janethwayne (5193)
Philippines
July 1, 2017 3:40pm CST
I have this experiences that I have a neighbor that I am close with before and then later on I never realize that she backbite me to one of my cousins and tell her bad things about me.I feel so mad about that and now it's been three years that I did not talk to her anymore.I know it is not a good idea to treat her this way but I just teach her some lessons of what she have done to me.It is so hard to trust someone in this world too much and that is a lesson for me too of being so open and a good friend maybe.
She still tries to talk to me and smile at me but I really don't make any response towards that because I know that she is already fake so what is the point right?I can't fake myself to be nice if I know that she is not real in return.Goodness why there are people who are like this and what's their problem.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
1 Jul 17
How did you learn of the bad things she tells you about? I have my fair share of people like that who seem to just enjoy to present me in a negative light. Like you, I have not done anything wrong against any of them but it's whatever. They can say whatever they want to say as long as the people dear to us and we respect know who we really are, then that's all that matters.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
1 Jul 17
I know that is all that matters but sometimes it irritates me like crazy.My cousin told me that and feel sorry for me.Thanks.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
1 Jul 17
@janethwayne I do not blame you for getting irritated. I would feel the same. Just think that they are actually unhappy with themselves, and find you to be living the life that they wanted. Hence, the negativity.
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@velvet53 (22528)
• Palisade, Colorado
17 Sep 17
I can understand how you feel. She betrayed you and your trust in her. If it is meant to happen for you to talk to her again then it will. If you are not ready to forgive her then that is your choice. I have a couple of people that I know who did the same thing to me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
1 Jul 17
It is hard to trust somebody once you have been betrayed. I am sure she feels badly that you found out about it. I hope it was a lesson learned and that she changes her ways.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
1 Jul 17
@janethwayne you learned pretty quickly when somebody stabs you in the back like that
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
1 Jul 17
And I think she is guilty because she is not talking to me too much now.She tries but there's a difference of what she is before but oh no I won't allow to be trap in her bait again.Thanks.
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@clara2017 (11)
• Australia
2 Jul 17
hi Janet, sorry about that and trust me I know how it feels like to be betrayed by a friend or someone you trusted and opened to, and people are always like that fortunately we learn lessons and that's yours my advice is to never say something that can turn against you one day.
about your neighbor you don't have to be friends with snakes if you don't want her in your life anymore close your door and kick her out of your life, but if you feel bad about your reaction open the door for her again but this time set some limits.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
3 Jul 17
@clara2017 Thank you.I know must keep an eye.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
2 Jul 17
Truth of the matter is that it is really hard to detect whose real and who's not these days. People tend to masquerade like angels when they are actually demons inside. They are a wolf under a sheep's clothing i must say. The main point in here is that you have to choose wisely to whom are you going to make friends with. Stay away from negative people and stick with the positive ones to obtain good vibes along the way and learn a lesson from your experiences. Never do trust anyone again but your own self. All the best in your life Janeth 
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
2 Jul 17
@sw8sincere Thank you so much I know I even say to myself I want to get out of here but I don't know how.I hate to see their faces though.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
2 Jul 17
@janethwayne I feel you as i already experienced the same thing too. It is really hard to be surrounded with such people. All we need is just to avoid them and not able to talk to them again just to get rid of a fight.
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@aishanee (435)
• Cuttack, India
2 Jul 17
I believe you have taken steps in the right direction to deal with filthy people.some people don't deserve good things and It's always best to drop negative people and negativity and move ahead.Being around people of this sort makes me feel like carrying loads of extra baggage on my back.I support and respect your decision.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
3 Jul 17
@aishanee I gave them my best shots to be good friend so that is enough.If they lose my goodness now then that's it.
@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
2 Jul 17
You never know why people do that, three years is a long time. Lesson learned, here watch who you trust.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
3 Jul 17
@CookieMonster46 Yes.But it is so hard to tell the only thing I can do now is to think what I got before and make it an example.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
2 Jul 17
I also experienced losing trust to a friend because she tell my secret to other girls and it's not right. I got mad of course and we're still friends but I don't trust her anymore. And because of that experience, I choose to shut my mouth and didn't share my experiences or feelings to someone unless they asked me. But even if they asked me, I only share those things needed to be shared.
My experienced taught me that no matter how much you trust someone, there is no guarantee that your secrets or anything you confide to them are safe.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
2 Jul 17
I know,me too!!! Thanks for dropping by.
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