You Gave An Inch, They Want to Take A Mile
July 2, 2017 12:20pm CST
I have a friend who needs help, a small favor to ask from me. Since I have time today to do it for her and it is something that I can do, I agreed to help her. After it's done, she wants something changed, something that she is very well and capable of doing. And because I have all my stuff tucked away and I am already doing something else, I suggested that she do it herself as I have given her everything she needs to work on it. But no, she insists that I do it. Why is it that when you try to help someone, there are times that instead of being thankful, they will demand more from you? It just irritates me sometimes when I know that they can very well do it themselves. It is another thing if I know that they are incapable of the change, I will understand that. People like her make me wary of helping out. Oh well...
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• United States
She kept her distance for a while when I stood my ground. It's not a matter of pride or principle, it's a matter of consideration and being appreciative, I think. But after a while, I think she missed me or she came to her senses because we started talking again like it didn't happen. No mention of that incident either.
• United States
22 Jul 17
There are times in life when people are needy. I know that very well since I've been very needy myself. And I've watched friends walk away because my neediness became irritating to them. And I understand that, too. Not much we can do Life hands us problems and we have to deal somehow. sometimes we have friends who can help and sometimes we have to do for ourselves. At least you tried and I'm sure your friend is thankful for that.
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Jul 17
Sometimes, it is okay to say no when you know you won't be able to do it. I guess they also need to understand that we also have our own priorities. Maybe we just have to tell them so they will understand. I guess they can't do anything if we decline.