Is it selfishness?
By Curlann
@annierose (18974)
Philippines
July 6, 2017 7:16am CST
When I got home from work, my mom handed me the notebook of my 6 year old niece and asked her to help my niece in her studies. It is a Tagalog assignment and I admit, I have difficulty understanding Tagalog words which we don't usually use in our every day conversation. My youngest sister already gave my niece 3 answers on her assignment. After I read the answers of my youngest sister, I started to understand what was the assignment of my niece and helped her to come up with another 2 sentences.
After few minutes, a young voice called my niece name. She asked if my niece has an answer already to their assignments because she will copy her answers. My mother told the child to do the assignment on her own and don't depend on others. The child said that her mom instructed her to just go to my niece to copy for an answer. Then, the child answered she already have an answer but would like to check if she and my niece have the same answers. I haven't heard their next conversations.
After that, my mom told me that the classmates of my niece always get her notebook to copy assignments. For us, it is not good. I also dislike the way the mother of that child teach her daughter to depend on others. It is like teaching the child to be lazy.
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@sabtraversa (12939)
• Italy
6 Jul 17
I thought this wasn't possible, the "lazy girl" has the mother every child would like to have! 
That's unhealthy, obviously. Her mother doesn't want to help her, or has no time for that. Or she can't help her. It would be wiser from her side to ask your niece to do the homework together.
That's how we did it during my school times.
That's unhealthy, obviously. Her mother doesn't want to help her, or has no time for that. Or she can't help her. It would be wiser from her side to ask your niece to do the homework together.
That's how we did it during my school times.3 people like this
@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@sabtraversa Your idea is better than the idea of the mother. I think they want to have an answer the easiest way possible.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@LadyDuck Her mother is old enough and base from what I am observing, she isn't mature yet.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
9 Jul 17
@LadyDuck I used to think that all people mature when they reach the old age. I realized I was wrong before.
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@LadyDuck (458207)
• Switzerland
9 Jul 17
@annierose There are people who never mature, no matter the age.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@cacay1 Unfortunately, her mother likes to gamble so the money has been wasted in gambling and not in necessary expenses.
@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@just4him That is so true. We told our niece never ever let her classmates copy her assignments.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@HeartBM I agree. Kids should be taught being responsible even at a very young age.
@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@Shavkat Sure, it is. I am not sure if her mother finished her study too.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
9 Jul 17
@Shavkat I agree. If there is a will, there is a way.
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@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
9 Jul 17
@annierose Oh, I see. I don't think it is a hindrance for the mother. She must be had studied before at the age of 6. If she is a low-level thinker, then I think reinforcement should be needed.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@cgalavia I dislike that attitude too.
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@Hate2Iron (15730)
• Canada
6 Jul 17
That mother certainly not helping her daughter in the long run. The child will expect someone else to do her work for years to come.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@Hate2Iron I hope her mom will realize that and will give enough time to teach her kids proper manners and hard work.
@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
9 Jul 17
@Lucky15 I agree. There should be an end for that kind of practice.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
why does the mother of that one kid allow her child to copy the answers from your niece? she is teaching her child to be lazy. and verifying the answers to your niece's notebook is not good too. if she does that, she is not confident of her answers and her knowledge on the subject matter.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@ridingbet I am not sure of her real reason. His other son became my student before and has been also a headache. I have been wondering what kind of guiding is she using for her kids.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
10 Jul 17
@ridingbet It can be one of the factors too.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
10 Jul 17
@annierose could it be that her kids lack the enthusiasm to learn that is why they rely on their copied answers (to their assignments) from others?
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
6 Jul 17
That would be annoying. I have copied here and there from my friends and them from me as well but it is different if we are friends and are okay with letting it happen sometimes because everyone has an off day. I would tell this little girl to do the work herself and that no she can't and will not copy your niece's answers. A lot of places are really tight about plagiarism and cheating so if that girl gets caught then your niece will also be in trouble for it. The little girl copying is the one losing out though because by copying she isn't learning anything and eventually will fail in life when she doesn't have someone that she can copy off of. Instead, the little girl could ask your niece to help her if she needs it or doesn't understand but don't allow your niece to do the work for her or let her copy her work. If your niece does well with that then she might be able to get a job in the future tutoring other students like this little girl.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@CaseyRoss9966 I agree with you. I guess not all people understand it. Some students want to pass and earn high grades with no effort at all which is quite a pity.
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@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
6 Jul 17
She is teaching her to be lazy, irresponsible, and dishonest. That is terrible. I would make sure your niece does not allow that. They are using her. They are getting their grades dishonestly.
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@annierose (18974)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@MsBooklover Absolutely! They don't want to learn and just want to get things in an easy way.
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