Anxiety

Mesa, Arizona
July 17, 2017 9:23pm CST
Anxiety is a monster that claims too many people all over the world, but it's so hidden behind stigma's with comments like "stop stressing about it." The problem with anxiety is that there are many reasons for it to happen. To broaden it up a bit, the two main causes are 1: situational and 2: chemical. Situational anxiety is brought on like a milder form of PTSD. Something has happened in your life that affected you so much that you constantly worried about that, and it slowly bridged out to cover all aspects. Chemical anxiety is when the brain does not produce enough serotonin, which is the chemical that allows relaxation. All experiences are vastly different from each other. I happen to have both forms of it, and I can usually tell which one is happening and take the steps to avoid my panic attacks. With the chemical anxiety, I feel my forehead burning and I'm physically hot. My heart starts palpitating and it feels like someone is squeezing my heart, while my blood throbs in my veins. I begin shaking and trembling and no where feels safe. When it's situational, it's a bit easier to manage, While most of the same symptoms happen, the burning feeling doesn't, and it takes a few minutes to identify my trigger, and rationalize myself out of it. While for most, it isn't much more severe then a passing thought, there are so many people who it completely debilitates. It makes it nearly impossible to leave their beds, let alone their homes. So I would really love it if those with anxiety could describe some of their triggers, and what they do to combat the symptoms. My triggers are sudden loud noises, being touched in any way by someone standing behind me, and too much vibration from people turning up the base in their cars too high. and I rationalize and find a calm, quiet space until the symptoms relieve. In the worst cases I listen to music and write/draw until I feel better. What are your triggers, what does your anxiety feel like, and what are your coping skills?
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@spaceseed (2925)
• India
18 Jul
I am avoiding to tell the trigger for anxiety for me, but yes nice to have this knowledge you provided. A big thanks
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
Thank you for commenting. Maybe one day you will feel comfortable sharing it.
@Shavkat (46862)
• Philippines
18 Jul
It triggers when there is something wrong with my family members. But I just need to be calm and face the challenges.
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@Shavkat (46862)
• Philippines
19 Jul
@TraciDavis I have some episodes. I lock myself up in the room and think.lol It is becoming my hobby.lol I tried to find the best solution to solve the problem. I am not married yet. As an eldest, I need to fulfill the responsibility of my late father.
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• Mesa, Arizona
19 Jul
@Shavkat Maybe that responsibility is bearing too much weight on your shoulders. Have you tried to ask for help with just getting a break from it? Maybe some therapy would help. It works wonders with the right therapist.
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@Shavkat (46862)
• Philippines
20 Jul
@TraciDavis It is fine, my friend. I am so lucky that the other family members help each other.
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@Courtlynn (50722)
• United States
18 Jul
I have both, but the only trigger i can think of is my ex. As he abused both me and my daughter when she was 3months, and nade it so i lost custody of her.
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear that. I definitely understand that pain of abuse. Were you/are you able to get custody back, at least partially?
@Courtlynn (50722)
• United States
18 Jul
@TraciDavis no. Had ti sign my rights 100% or take an open adoption of a letter every december. And i took the letter because its better than nothing.
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
@Courtlynn I am so sorry for that. That must have been so heartbreaking. Have you been able to get any help or council with the situation? Sometimes there are ways to get your rights back, depending on where you are. And How do you manage your anxiety and depression?
@velvet53 (15393)
• Palisade, Colorado
20 Jul
I am glad that you are able to take control of things when you have anxiety attacks. My oldest son and his fiance both get anxiety attacks and they don't deal well with them. I have tried telling both that they need to find a way to handle them before it is too late.
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• Mesa, Arizona
20 Jul
Have you considered that maybe they way you have told them makes their anxiety worse? (Not attacking you) sometimes just the way we phrase things make it very difficult to get the help we need because we feel outcasted and freakish. Have you tried something like this. "Hey, you know I love you, and I just want you to feel better. Why don't we make a day and we'll try and find a good place to help with the anxiety attacks. You don't need to jump on medication, but maybe having someone you can talk to about it will help." I have a Facebook page that is all about surviving and learning how to thrive that I work on in my spare time.
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@velvet53 (15393)
• Palisade, Colorado
20 Jul
@TraciDavis I bet you are right. I will try to get them to try and get help, hopefully without medication. I definitely will take them at separate times.
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• Mesa, Arizona
20 Jul
@velvet53 you could even take them together, they just have their own appointments at different times. It's a lot less scary when you know what to expect. The place I go to for therapy is great. They hand write their notes, they have several different rooms and will change the lighting just so you feel as comfortable as possible. And the biggest thing to tell them, is that if one therapist doesn't work out, they can switch to a different one until they find the right match. That's how I got my hubby to agree to go.
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@Tampa_girl7 (21648)
• United States
18 Jul
I really don't have anxiety the way you describe it, but once in awhile I do get stressed and music, exercise and good scents ......like a candle help.
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
That's great! I'm so happy that your anxiety isn't severe and you have some great relaxation tools! Thank you so much for sharing with us how you decompress and relax!!!
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@Tampa_girl7 (21648)
• United States
18 Jul
@TraciDavis I hope that yours will get better.
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
@Tampa_girl7 Thank you! It absolutely will, I just need to make some changes and get new medications and I'll bounce back like always. Thank you so much for commenting so positively! You are so wonderful.
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@Nawsheen (22862)
• Mauritius
18 Jul
I feel anxious whenever I have to sit for an exams or go for an interview. I even start trembling at times. I try to close my eyes and take deep breaths when this happens
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• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
That's great! Thank you so much for sharing with us. Testing can always be difficult, and that is a great way to calm yourself down!!! Keep it up rock star!!
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@Nawsheen (22862)
• Mauritius
18 Jul
@TraciDavis Thank you
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@redurnet (951)
• United Kingdom
28 Jul
I'm similar - loud noises are terrible for me; feeling embarrassed is a big one too. I have actually passed out talking to people after becoming embarrassed. I try and cope by breathing slowly and deeply and by telling myself everything is okay.
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• Mesa, Arizona
28 Jul
That is great! Thank you so much for sharing.
• Austin, Texas
19 Jul
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• Mesa, Arizona
19 Jul
Thank you so much.
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@peachpurple (10995)
• Malaysia
19 Jul
Nope I don't have anxiety but my brother has, he had OCD. He has not recover yet, under medication.
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@Tracy04 (10691)
• Malaysia
18 Jul
I hear that animals such as dog also has separation anxiety.
• Mesa, Arizona
18 Jul
That is true, my chihuahua actually has separation anxiety. She won't do anything without me here, including going to the bathroom. She clings to me and even though she has her own bed, I always wake up with her right against my legs. And if my husband isn't in the room with me, she has to be right on top of me.
@Tracy04 (10691)
• Malaysia
19 Jul
@TraciDavis ouch! Hmm.... I'm not an expert, but I can try suggest you to watch or read Cesar Millan shows and his books. He is a dog expert.
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• Mesa, Arizona
19 Jul
@Tracy04 I'll definitely look into it. Thanks for the situation.