I can't stand flaky people!
By Cait Tallon
July 27, 2017 2:18pm CST
If I'm counting on you and even rushing things to fit your schedule and you flake it just extra pisses me off! I made a post earlier about trying to get a house, my boyfriend and I were talking about doing it next year but my sister was saying she didn't wanna resign so she wanted to live with us for a while so we agreed because help with bills then she says I have 2 months so you guys need to hurry. So we do everything, call people like lenders realtors find houses etc and she does nothing to help then when we say can you help at least a little she says we're treating her like crap. At this point we're questioning if it's the right decision. She comes and gets us to go to the aurora memorial and my boyfriend brings it up and she's like oh I'm going to resign my lease we can try again in 15 months. We're kinda taking this as a sign we shouldn't live together and agree. Right now we're staying with my mom, we help with things so it's not like a free ride, anyway my mom says there's no rush so we start looking at early next year to do it. Then my sister comes here and asks to stay and my mom says yes and this irritates my boyfriend and I but we say nothing because it's not our house. However, to show why we are irritated it's because she throws anxiety in my face, she'll call me lazy point out how everyone is working outside the home but not me and takes it as i have to clean up and cook for her. Not only that she comes in and just takes our food without asking, we bought specific chips for my boyfriends lunch at work she takes it without asking and when she's finished doesn't even throw it away. Last she smokes and I am allergic where I can't breathe. When we were going to a house it was because it was the type where the basment is like an apartment so she'd have her own space. Right now we're in a 2 bedroom townhome and my sister wants to move in because she refused to be responsible with her bills and now instead of figuring it out she just wants to run home. At this point how she has been talking and treating me, i mean she even yelled at me as she asks for a favor my boyfriend and I are now back to rushing to get out before she moves in and this all started by trying to help her out and I'm so frustrated.
5 people like this
• Agate, Colorado
Definitely!! I think that's what irritates me the most, her and her friends have come here and smoked and i said i couldn't breathe and they said to get an oxygen tank, it came to a point where it felt my throat was closing and i had to leave. It's horrible, i don't get why people act like this. Thank you
• United States
Yeah, no.. living with her either at your moms or at your own place doesn't sound like it'll work. My brother thinks of me as his slave too, and he even has anxiety himself so i don't get it. But at the end of the day, i cook and clean anyways so i tend to ignore that from him and just do it for myself, to be productive.
Oh im sorry that you have experience this. You are right on the living together with her will not work. I mean picturing the scenario you are describing, i cant imagine how it will be like living with her. Hope you will find a new place or that you and your sis will be able to settle the differences or the issues. Take care
• United States
Wow, she should NOT be throwing your anxiety in your face. I know she's your sister, but she needs to educate herself and realize that things that are simple for others are difficult for those with anxiety. You're at least trying to work from home, and either way, it doesn't make you lazy. As for you cooking/cleaning for her - no. It's not even her house and you don't owe her a thing. What you do around the house is between you and your Mom, and she doesn't get a say in it. It should also be a house rule for her to go outside when she smokes. I'm really sorry if I'm being too blunt; just got mad with how she is treating you.