She is Gone – It all Happened too Fast

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@poehere (15126)
French Polynesia
July 31, 2017 1:54pm CST
Yesterday my very good friend died. We just celebrated her 50th birthday on Friday. Early Saturday morning she was rushed to the hospital with major heart complications. I knew she was sick for a long time, but I never really knew how sick. Yesterday morning in the wee hours she passed. Today they are holding her services which I will attend. I miss her already. I laughed so hard on Friday night with her. We sat on her brick wall talking all night. She was so alive and full of joy. It is hard to believe she is gone today. Do you miss people you were close too once they pass?
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@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
31 Jul 17
Do you think anyone will answer your question negatively? It's good that you were together with your friend only recently and have such positive memories.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
No I don't. It is just hard to believe she is gone. I miss her already.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
2 Aug 17
I certainly hope nobody we know on myLot will answer in the negative on this discussion, Maluse, but I do know some people who say they never think about someone once they pass... (I thought about that for a long time after they said it... I think there is something wrong with them if what they claimed is true!) SMH!
@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jul 17
Maybe the birthday celebration was a nice good bye for her to have with all of those she cared about. I still miss my mom and grandmother.
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@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Aug 17
@poehere ......They all have to go sometime. I haven't lost any close ones as yet. Just parents and grandparents and an ex.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
1 Aug 17
@celticeagle That is the life cycle for all.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
I don't loose many close friends. However a few years back I lost my dad. I still miss him everyday of my life.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Jul 17
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend and for how sudden it was. =( I'm glad you have the memory of Friday night in your heart and mind though.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
She was a great person. Sometimes I would just show up at her house and we would sit on the wall and laugh. Her adopted daughter loved to speak English with me. Most of the time I had no idea what she was saying and we would just laugh.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
31 Jul 17
Sorry to hear about your friend. I think everyone misses someone who they were close too once they pass.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
Thank you Richard.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Jul 17
Yes I do, I go through a period of loneliness. I am glad you had spent time with her.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
I still do for my father. My father was cremated and buried at sea. When I am missing him a lot I go to the lagoon and look out at the ocean. I know he is there somewhere.
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@Mona_li (60)
• Paris, France
31 Jul 17
It touched me...i hope she is in a better place. Its really sad but comforting that you were together before she passed a way. Im sorry for your loss
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
I believe she is. Thank you so much.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
2 Aug 17
Oh, my, Ann! I am so sorry! I will keep you in my thoughts... Yes, I have lost several of my childhood friends over the years and while I don't think about them all the time, they do pop up into my thoughts when something triggers them. SMH! Most people say time will heal the loss of our loved ones... It is my contention that "most people" are full of excrement when they say that, or else they didn't know or love anyone very much! There were two friends I was very close to who passed within days of each other... (their car was t-boned by a semi). I don't/won't drive past their old home, anymore. It always feels like they get in my car and stay with me for the rest of the day. (Thinking about them and remembering things we did together is always good, if I could stop thinking about them after a little while... It bothers me that they seem to insist on staying with me to "visit" for the rest of the day, though. *shrug!*) I also miss my mom all the time. I was not feeling well and running a fever a few days ago. Mom decided to visit me that night. She touched my head and said my fever was running at 104 (F).When Pretty checked early the next morning I was running 102 degrees (F). I remember telling mom that I was freezing... When I woke up the next morning, one of the decorative blankets we don't actually use as a blanket was covering me. (Pretty says I had to have gotten up and put it over me. I know I was dizzy and couldn't stand up, let alone walk into another room, dig in a closet and get a blanket out.)
@sallypup (58118)
• Centralia, Washington
10 Aug 17
My belated condolences. I miss many people and many fur kids, too. I believe their spirits remain with me, though. Again, I am sorry.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
11 Aug 17
They stay with us in our memories that is for sure.
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@KristenH (33352)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
31 Jul 17
Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Of course I do. I miss my mother, grandfather and aunt. But I'll cherish them forever.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
Like I do my father, 2 grandmothers and my grandfather. I miss them a lot.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
1 Aug 17
That is one thing about life and destiny @poehere , you never know. At least you got to spend a very special day with her and it will be a life-long memory. I'm so sorry to hear about this.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
1 Aug 17
Yes, you are right. Any day at any time we can ge gone. It was nice to pass the night with her.
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@Morleyhunt (21736)
• Canada
31 Jul 17
You have good memories to help you get through this.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
That I do. Thank you so much.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
1 Aug 17
I am so sorry to hear of your friends passing. I do mourn the passing of people I am close to. I hope you remember the good times and keep them close to your heart.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
2 Aug 17
@HazySue Thank you so much.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
1 Aug 17
I was happy I had decided to go on Friday night to helop her celebrate her birthday. I was tired and almost didn't go.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
2 Aug 17
@poehere I am glad you got that bit of time to add to your happy memories of your friend.
@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
Yes. I certainly do. My closest friend passed away a couple of years ago. I really miss her. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
11 Aug 17
Thank you so much. I do miss her a lot.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
12 Aug 17
@RubyHawk Thank you and yes this is so true.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
11 Aug 17
@poehere It's something we never get over but we learn to live with it.
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@abcdmm (177)
• Maseru, Lesotho
1 Aug 17
That is a very bad time for you, but God will fill up the gap, I am sorry.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
1 Aug 17
Thank you
@dodo19 (47117)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
31 Jul 17
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's hard to loss someone.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
Thank you so much Dominique.
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@RasmaSandra (73725)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
31 Jul 17
So sorry to hear this. My sympathies to you for your loss. It is so hard to lose a dear friend. But you can be sure she will be near by and smiling down on you knowing you care. Prayers for her family and blessings to you.
@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
31 Jul 17
thank you so much. She was a good person.
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