She Complains Nonstop About Being Pregnant

United States
August 27, 2017 7:15pm CST
I have a friend who is currently pregnant. And all she has done her entire pregnancy is complain about being pregnant! It doesn't sound like she's dealing with nonstop sickness or horrible pregnancy symptoms or anything, she just doesn't like having a big belly (it's not even that big) and being "uncomfortable" and inconvenienced by pregnancy. I get that it's probably uncomfortable but what a crappy attitude about becoming a mom for the first time. Some of us can't get pregnant and were told we will never be able to have kids, so every time I hear her complain, it sort of feels like a slap in the face. At least her body is capable of making a baby. She should be happy that she is carrying life, that her baby is healthy, that so far nothing has gone wrong with her pregnancy, instead of complaining about everything 24/7. But since the world caters to moms and pregnant women, everyone just tolerates her bad attitude and keeps telling her it will be over before she knows it, while I'm here thinking that's an experience I will never get to have. Maybe she should try to appreciate it a little more.
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11 responses
• United States
28 Aug 17
That must be most unpleasant for you to listen to Stacy to say the least.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I'm sure any woman who has suffered a miscarriage, or a stillbirth, or otherwise had something go wrong with their pregnancy would also feel this type of complaining is very insensitive and annoying.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog I think it is for sure..I wouldn´t be able to listen to her at all.
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@marguicha (104359)
• Chile
28 Aug 17
I hope she changes her attitude!
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• United States
28 Aug 17
So do I...makes me wonder if she will complain as much once the child is born and she actually has to take care of it!
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@marguicha (104359)
• Chile
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog I remember that I complained some, about a couple of weeks before I had my second one, because my back hurt. Nut NOT for being pregnant.
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@thelme55 (15295)
• Germany
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog I am sure she will complain more when the child comes.
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@sabtraversa (13331)
• Italy
28 Aug 17
Maybe pregnant women think that complaining is like doing a favor to an infertile woman, making her feel better because pregnancy is so annoying. But what the heck, no way.
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@deazil (4547)
• United States
28 Aug 17
Very interesting perspective! And possibly quite true. And yes, still no way is it helpful or any way to behave.
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@sabtraversa (13331)
• Italy
28 Aug 17
@deazil One man's trash is another man's treasure, always been like that.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
That could very well be. Maybe they don't realize how hurtful it is to talk that way in front of infertile women.
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@deazil (4547)
• United States
28 Aug 17
What an unpleasant experience for you to have to listen to her. For me, I would distance myself from her. All that complaining makes me wonder what kind of a mother she'll be. I hope she changes her attitude once the baby arrives. When she complains about her big belly you should tell her "Well, you'll get your shape back after the baby's born....if you're lucky." LOL I know, that would be mean and probably not like you to say anything like that. I'm old, I get mean sometimes with miserable, inconsiderate people who don't know how lucky they are.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I hope she doesn't complain about the hassle of actually having to take care of the baby. I'm sure being responsible for another human life is much more difficult than growing it inside of you! Haha, I often think things like that in my head, but never say them aloud...maybe I should just start saying them. What have I got to lose at this point?
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@deazil (4547)
• United States
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog That would be even worse if she complains about the responsibility of parenthood. Right. At this point do you really want to continue listening to her? LOL Maybe if you voiced your thoughts she'd shut up about it. Or stop talking to you altogether, which might be nice.
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@carebear29 (28834)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
28 Aug 17
i hate people that are like that
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I would be sympathetic if it was just an occasional complaint here and there, but this nonstop complaining is just nuts!
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@carebear29 (28834)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog i agree
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@andriaperry (61585)
• Anniston, Alabama
28 Aug 17
I never had kids either thanks to Monsanto. Although I wanted kids and didnt, BUT I was always with kids, someone always left their kids at my house. I had a nephew so much, since 6 months till he was sent to a private school because the mom did not want him, that everyone thought he was mine. I never really heard anyone complain about it that much. I would have to tell her " I bet you will use birth control from now own, since it HURTS so bad "
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I have never heard anyone complain about it as much as she has. Maybe a few complaints about the odd aches and pains here and there, or complaining if they have morning sickness, but with her it is nonstop complaining. I pretty much raised my brothers, and I spent a decade working with kids, plus I have friends who have young kids (no nieces or nephews yet) so if I want to be around kids, I can...kinda got burned out on being around them, as they seem to get worse and worse as time goes by. Or maybe it's just that you can't discipline them anymore so they seem to be more unruly. I figure that since I can't have any biological ones, at some point in time if I ever have the desire to take on full-time responsibility for a kid, I'll take in fosters and maybe adopt...for the most part I'm okay with the way my life is but sometimes it does get me down knowing I can't have a baby, especially when women who can seem to take it for granted.
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@yukimori (9094)
• United States
28 Aug 17
Sounds like you need to see her 100% less for the time being.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I think you're right.
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@Tracy04 (10815)
• Malaysia
28 Aug 17
Somehow she needs to be calm during her pregnancy. It might affect her child. Panic attacks or something.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
She does suffer from anxiety. Maybe pregnancy is harder on her than it is on most women. :(
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@Tracy04 (10815)
• Malaysia
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog ouch. Didn't her husband take her to doctor to calm her anxiety or any treatment? It could be annoying too.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
@Tracy04 I am not sure. I know she goes to the doctor a lot but I'm not sure if she's being treated for the anxiety.
@Courtlynn (55383)
• United States
28 Aug 17
I get what you're saying, and im sorry again that you cant have kids.. and it can be annoying to hear pregnant women complain so often.. but it happens to most pregnant women. Even ones who plan the pregnancy and want to be happy. It just happens. So maybe try to not get so annoyed with her.
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• United States
28 Aug 17
I get it, and I'm used to hearing pregnant women complain about their pregnancies to an extent...but not like her. It's been nothing but complaints the entire time. Maybe she just really hates being pregnant. It could be worse for her depending on her health, but it just seems like petty stuff she's constantly whining about.
@Courtlynn (55383)
• United States
28 Aug 17
@Srbageldog all women deal with being pregnant differently, because it is different for every woman.. But i can understand being upset over it.
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@sissy15 (5773)
• United States
3 Sep 17
That is a crappy attitude, I mean most pregnant women complain because it's not the most comfortable and you do sometimes feel like a whale but for the most part most of us feel lucky or blessed because we were given the chance to create life and that's pretty amazing. I thought being pregnant was worth it especially since I didn't think I'd ever have the chance to have a baby. Now, I'd love to be pregnant one more time but it doesn't seem to be in the cards for me and that's ok. I got one amazing kid out of it so that's enough I figure I'm blessed to have him, but I still feel sad I may never have another child. I just wish women like her wouldn't take it for granted. I never did because I didn't think I could have a baby, but she's probably never felt what it feels like to be told you'll probably never have a child, to begin with.
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• United States
4 Sep 17
Yeah, she's young and while she's had some health problems (she had to have a pacemaker put in a year ago because she has heart block), I don't think infertility was ever among them. Maybe it makes her more nervous being pregnant on top of her anxiety and worrying about her heart, although from what she's told me she's a lot healthier now that she has the pacemaker. Before that she was dizzy and feeling like she was going to pass out all the time. So I am sympathetic that she's had to deal with that, and I imagine it's a worry that probably doesn't ever go away, but she doesn't even mention that stuff when she complains about being pregnant. But maybe that's the underlying cause of her complaints; who knows. It just seems like nonstop complaining about every little thing and after a while it starts getting annoying. I'm sure many women have gone through pregnancy with health issues of their own (probably even worse ones) and didn't complain so much.
@thelme55 (15295)
• Germany
28 Aug 17
Oh. I think she will complain more when the baby is there. She will not have enough sleep.
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• United States
29 Aug 17
I think you are most likely right. If the pregnancy is too much for her to handle, how will it be taking care of a fully dependent human being 24/7? She recently got rid of her cat because she wouldn't be able to deal with it once the baby came. Hope she doesn't decide she can't handle her kid and get rid of him too! :/
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