Update on my life.
August 28, 2017 1:10am CST
I know it's been awhile, I really haven't had a lot of time on my hands. A lot has happened here. Some good and some not. A bug has made its way through our home and I'm the latest victim, my son still has it but not as bad. It seems to be like a cold but doesn't seem to last as long. My son started 1st grade about 2 weeks ago, and it was a difficult day for me seeing my baby being so big. He got out of the car and walked himself in too bad he gave me the scare of a lifetime when I picked him up. I waited outside where the buses are as that's where walkers go and I waited and I waited and as I saw every other kid leave I didn't see my son. Finally I asked someone and they started to look but just as they started to look my son's teacher came out with him, apparently, my son went to the carpool pickup area on the other side of the school. I told my son he knew he was supposed to walk and he tells me with an exasperated sigh "This school is like a maze mommy! You can't possibly expect me to remember where the walker doors are!" My kid is a drama king. Everything is always said with so much drama and enthusiasm. He cracks me up though, we never know what he'll say next. He hasn't done that again, I think partially because my older niece goes and gets him and her little sister who is in the same grade as my son and walks them out. Today my mom and I were supposed to take my niece to church with us and then to the park. I told her we'd pick her up between 8 and 9 AM. We call and text her mother who is supposed to have her this weekend, and we never hear anything. We stopped at her house and knocked and didn't hear anything. Finally, as we leave we get a text saying that my ex SIL's grandma has her and she won't be back until around lunchtime so we say ok fine we'll pick her up around then and take her to the park with us well lunch time comes and goes and we spent quite awhile waiting but we finally leave the park just as we get home and comfortable we get a text saying she was on her way in which my mom said well we are done we waited all day. Her mom is always like this, very unreliable and irresponsible. We pretty much figured things would go this way. Instead of letting us know what's going on when it's happening and telling us things while they're relevant she waits until after we've wasted our time waiting around. If you know someone has plans with your kid and you change them you should at least call and let them know so they aren't sitting around wasting their time. This kind of thing frustrates me to no end. Apart from that, things around here are a bit stressful. My brother was arrested again for breaking the terms of his probation. His ankle monitor detected alcohol in his system and he is contesting it. I get several things other than drinking alcohol can set those things off, but I just have this feeling he did drink. I don't think he has actually reached his rock bottom because he has had people babying him and helping him instead of letting him fall on his face and realize he has a problem. I don't think it has registered with him. He still refuses to share what's going on in his head with anyone. He refused to see a counselor he was told he only had to if he felt the need to and of course he chose not to, which pretty much tells me he isn't ready to change. He only does what he is court ordered to do and nothing more. Now he is in jail again and I honestly hope they put him in a rehab or something. My mom has said she won't take him in. I just hope she sticks with that. As far as me and the husband we are currently doing fine relationship wise. Nothing really feels that much different. Maybe a slightly stronger bond, but I mean we've been together for almost 8 and a half years so a few weeks of marriage doesn't make a giant difference. I have already almost lost my ring a couple of times, this is why I usually don't wear jewelry but now I wear my ring all the time except when it decides to slip off my finger or if I'm doing something I know might ruin it or make it fall off. Live and learn. I can't say I'll be on much but thought I'd stop in and let people know what's been happening on my end. I miss being here but I really haven't had the time. I'm hoping things will slow down soon but with fall around the corner, I doubt it. We have festivals galore coming up, Halloween, and doctor's appointments as it nears my son's 7th birthday. Before I forget my son is supposed to meet his sister (my husband's daughter) next week. We'll see how that goes. I haven't told my son as I don't want him to be disappointed if things come up and it doesn't pan out. My husband's daughter doesn't want my husband to be there for the first visit but said he could come if they meet again. It's a step in the right direction. Hopefully, one day he'll be able to have a relationship with his other two kids. Here's hoping. How have you all been? I really miss talking to everyone. It's been awhile and I hope to eventually get back on and catch up with everyone. Talk to you all soon hopefully.
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28 Aug 17
That's a long story. If I wasn't in a hurry I'd just ignore everything that you posted here and move on Your kid needs a map, that's how it starts. I don't blame him for getting lost, how long he's been going to that school. It's blessing that after 8 1/2 years your relationship is going strong. have a nice day
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3 Sep 17
To be fair my posts are usually long, I'd break them down but when I do that I mess with the natural flow of my thoughts and I forget things I wanted to say. I pretty much expect people to skim it or to skip it. I also haven't been on here much so I have a lot to say. lol the school really isn't THAT big, but I guess to a 6 year old it may seem like it. It is a blessing we have stuck together this long, it's not easy but it's worth it. Thank you, you too.
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28 Aug 17
You will have to let me know how the meeting with your stepdaughter goes. I assume you will be there -- will her mom or stepdad be there also? That might be awkward. It kinda sucks for your husband not being able to see her, but I understand why she would want to work up to meeting him. Shawn's stepsister wasn't sure if she wanted to meet their dad or not either, but she did want to know her siblings. It's natural to want to know your half-siblings -- after all they didn't do anything wrong -- but understandable for the kid to have a lot of resentment and anger toward the absent parent.
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3 Sep 17
I will, I honestly don't know if her mom will be there or not, some kids do hold a resentment towards their parent's other children because it makes them wonder why they weren't good enough, even though that usually isn't the case. Sometimes it has to do with where they are at that point in their life and it has nothing to do with their other children, but kids still get that resentment. I don't know that his son is ever going to want to meet him or not. I have heard nothing about him wanting to meet the boy. I guess we'll see.