Would you ask your crush for a hug even if he/she has bf/gf/spouse or you have a spouse?

On the left, the gym boy... On the right is my client. Yup, these pics have consent. LOL :)
Pasay, Philippines
September 6, 2017 7:43pm CST
This is a very interesting question that sparked my curiosity. One of my customers here at the shop asked me about this question. She is 22 years old. She had a crush on one of the gym trainers here near in our area. As she was buying some print outs of her family members for a Christmas decoration, she show me one of the photos she wants me to print out; it was her crush. Apparently the guy has a girlfriend which she didn't love him seriously. They got a cool-off before. She was being told by my customer's aunt and sisters to stay away from the guy because it might cause a fuzz between the couple. To keep everything in place, she stayed away. But she confessed that she is inspired to be with him at the gym because he is nice, cool and kind. All she wanted for her upcoming birthday (this September 25) is a warm hug from the guy. Nothing more. I did it before and it was one of the best birthday gift I've got: a hug from my crush. To me, I didn't give more than just a hug, and so does he. No malice about it and just friendly hug for us to get inspired. We still stayed friends, but my crush on him faded away due to some discoveries/ what I have discovered. He understands and it is better for us that way, too. My point is; why would you deprive yourself for doing something that will makes you feel good without betraying anybody? You wouldn't ask for a kiss or a sex,right? Just a hug. My customer earlier agreed. What do you think? Would you ask your crush for a hug even if he/she has bf/gf/spouse or you have a spouse?
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@Courtlynn (54965)
• United States
7 Sep 17
I personally wouldn't even crush on someone if they had a partner. Never mind crush on them, and be obsessed with them enough to only want a hug from them for a gift.
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• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
Yup. That's gonna be true love. You wouldn't have any attraction to anybody else if you love your partner. This girl, on the other hand, doesn't have a partner so it could be one reason she wants ahug from the guy as a gift :)
@Courtlynn (54965)
• United States
13 Sep 17
@resy21curapika partner or not. Respect others relationships and back off. Easy to do.
• Guangdong, China
7 Sep 17
well, at least I won't happy to let my BF to give a friendly hug, even though both parties are fine with that.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
If I caught them, all hell breaks loose! Hahaha :)
• Guangdong, China
13 Sep 17
@resy21curapika hahha, it is true!same to me.
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
She must be young, it fades away in time as you grow up. If only I could turn back because I didn't even know the difference of it.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
Yeah, she's young. She's 20. It'll be a great memory once she grows up. At least she didn't have any regrets on doing it
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
7 Sep 17
If there is nothing wrong in it , then their respective partners should be happy. If they are not then ..no it's not right. Personally not okay for me
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
Hahaha, if I caught them havingsex then that would be a deal-breaker for me, too
@augusta123 (6380)
7 Sep 17
yes,it is what it is a hug
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
True. Just a friendly hug. Some individuals are possessive that they don't even allow their partners to even touch another guy/gal. In the end, they're being misunderstood
@Srbageldog (8239)
• United States
7 Sep 17
I would not like it if some girl who was crushing on my partner only wanted a hug from him for her birthday. And I would not ask a guy who was in a relationship for a hug. To me that is very, very disrespectful to their partner and crosses boundaries.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
I kinda agree to this. Thanks for your thoughts ^_^
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@NoorNoor (1183)
• India
7 Sep 17
Noooooooooo way.seeing a boy without no reason is forbidden.It's a sin according to The Holy quran.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
Alright ^_^
@holdoors (1664)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 17
I am not sure about this but I hope it does not lead to further misunderstandings. A hug is fine if both parties are okay and clear on it.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 17
Nope. So far, that's the best advice I've also given to her. She had never felt better, too.
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@id_peace (7625)
• Singapore
26 Jul
It is just a hug, so long as no one told them anything.