Another child completes you / myLot

Toronto, Ontario

September 24, 2017 10:37am CST

This sort of makes me sick. A close friend of mine had 2 boys and then just had a baby girl a few weeks ago. She keeps commenting as we met for coffee how her family is complete and shes so happy as she has a girl. All she talks about is this girl i get you just had her. But the 2 boys will hate you eventually because of it. I kept trying to explain it as sure its been a few weeks. But ignoring those 2 and giving all attenion to her because your complete now. She just couldnt understand and i think its sad that she purposely got pregnent in hopes to have a baby girl and to be complete. Just shows the lack of happiness she actually has. I eventually went home wnd thought she'll understand when the two act out which the one is.

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Courtney

@Courtlynn (66918)

• United States

24 Sep 17

There's nothing wrong with wanting a girl, and finally having her so you say your family is complete. And vice versa for wanting a boy and finally getting one. Yeah, some don't care which gender they have, and thats okay. But others do hope to have a certain gender, even though they'd be happy either way long as the kid is healthy. And that's okay too. It's a personal thing. Not a I'm unhappy thing. And many do the same as her, and their older kids aren't hateful or anything. It's not a big deal.

Ricki Dillane

@ricki_911 (21625)

• Toronto, Ontario

24 Sep 17

Its one thing to want a certain gender then ifnoring the other 2 kids because you now have a girl. Those kids are going to resent and hate her. We went out and she sat taking pictures and playing with the little girl telling the 2 voys to go over and play . Sad, but shes rather immature regardless of her age. The one boy is already acting out and will get worse with time.

Courtney

@Courtlynn (66918)

• United States

24 Sep 17

@ricki_911 most parents who have a baby, and older kids that are able to walk and go play, will tell them to go play. Regardless if they're sitting taking pictures of the baby, or just sitting there. Its actually normal. Lol. And kids act out for many reasons. Behavioral problems, not having both parents around, going home to home, etc. Not always because of being ignored.

Ricki Dillane

@ricki_911 (21625)

• Toronto, Ontario

24 Sep 17

@Courtlynn this is the reason for this child. Its well apparent especially when i went for schooling for that. The baby is very well and sleeps alot. So ignoring the two children and brushing them off like they are nothing. Sad that she thinks that way.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (58185)

• Centralia, Washington

24 Sep 17

I wonder if she'll be one of those Moms that dress their girls up like little dolls. Later the girl could grow up and want to wear overalls and have her own resentment going.

Ricki Dillane

@ricki_911 (21625)

• Toronto, Ontario

24 Sep 17

She already does that

. She has all these pictures of the girl and bragging. But nothing of the 2 boys (4 years old and 2 years old). Sad but the 2 year old is already starting tobhave behavioural issues.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (58185)

• Centralia, Washington

24 Sep 17

@ricki_911 Just wow. We used to know a family kind of like this. They'd mention the girl but never the boy. He started hitting their cat with his metal truck. Horrible.

BarBaraPrz

@BarBaraPrz (45597)

• St. Catharines, Ontario

24 Sep 17

By extraction, if you need someone else to complete you, then there must be something wrong with you. Find out what that is and do something about it. I guess she needed a daughter to feel complete. Not everyone can feel "complete" in their own self just as I do, and I'm assuming you do, too.

Ricki Dillane

@ricki_911 (21625)

• Toronto, Ontario

24 Sep 17

I guess so. I jist feel sorry for the 2 boys. I know she didnt have much before kids. Auch as work, hobbies, and so on. Its sad but if she keeps saying this to the boys they will hate her worth her life. I think she needs to thinknof herself and what she needs or wants. It reminds me of when people would come into my work and say they got a new cat or dog but yet you can see its a new fad.

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