Would you pay to attend a friends wedding ?
By Traceyjayne
@Traceyjayne (1763)
United Kingdom
September 30, 2017 9:14am CST
Okay .... so we have all been invited to a wedding where you know its going to cost ....a present, maybe new outfits...drinks at the bar ....
that's the norm ....right ?
But .... what if the bride and groom expected you to pay for all that ...
AND
They asked you to pay for your own meals too ?
What would you think then ?
That's just what a couple in the West Midlands have done. They said they wanted to get married and have their family and friends there but could not afford it ....so they could only attend if they paid for themselves ....
In that situation ... what would you do ?
Pay and be happy to do so as they were friends ....
or ...
decline and send a Best Wishes card .
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8 responses
@1creekgirl (40523)
• United States
1 Oct 17
I think if the couple can't afford a big wedding, they should just have what they can afford. Invite a few friends and family, have simple refreshments and enjoy the day.
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@xFiacre (12598)
• Ireland
30 Sep 17
@traceyjayne That's hilarious!! I bet there'll be a lot of declining. My male perspective is that I wish people would stop inviting me to their weddings - I might start charging couples for my smile because I have great difficulty finding it and it keeps slipping off and has to be retrieved. However I'm backing this couple all the way. Someone needs to do something to put a spoke in the wheels of the industry that makes it so expensive for young people to wed. There should be a government spending cap of £500 on every wedding. Couples should spend their money on their marriage that's meant to last a lifetime rather than on their wedding that will be over in a blink.
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
2 Oct 17
I don't think it's right for a couple to expect their guests to pay for the wedding THEY want. Wedding's aren't cheap and if a couple are limited in funds there are several other options then the traditional wedding. I love what read here about open outdoor wedding.
I would decline the invite and send a card myself.
@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 17
That's the weirdest thing I've ever heard. Lucky none of my friends have done that 
@Poppylicious (11133)
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1 Oct 17
I would go and happily pay if they were close friends or family. I havent read the story of this couple, but I'm assuming they've asked for this instead of gifts? I actually think it's a lovely idea. Weddings are far too expensive. Plus, this way they get to find out who their real friends are!
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@Mrgana1 (340)
• Nigeria
30 Sep 17
New things pop up on daily basis this made me not to argue with people when they discuss about things I have no idea on. I won't go, cos wedding is call to celebration, you invite well wishers to celebrate you and make them feel satisfied toomy-wise.
