Living with someone again

United States
November 4, 2017 12:32pm CST
It's been over 17 years since I shared a home with someone. Previously I had moved in with my mother (that was in 1984 after I was injured on the job. Plus my father had died so it was perfect for two old broads to share a house) an we had a ball together. This is a bit different. Bill and I have been an "item" for 17 years and have had a wonderful time together. When the fire destroyed my house I was given shelter by this wonderful man. But it's like a real life Odd Couple! He is Mr. Neat and I'm Ms. Sloppy. I tend to leave things lay because I am going to use them again (especially my crafting/bear making supplies) plus having animals isn't conducive to a clean house either. He gets up and eats right away, I need to wake up and get my system ready for food. I do a lot of craft stuff and he reads a lot. I have my critters in the house with me and he wants them outside. One great thing about our relationship is we discuss our problems rather letting them reach proportions where we argue. Now I just need to joke with Bill and let him know that about 4a.m. he rolled over and accidentally slapped me in the ear!
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@GardenGerty (91193)
• Marion, Kansas
4 Nov
It is a strange feeling, isn't it?
1 person likes this
• United States
4 Nov
It's a very strange feeling, but what helps is that I adore the man!
@MALUSE (32976)
• Denmark
4 Nov
It's good to learn that you find compromises.
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• United States
4 Nov
I'm good at compromising. I learned a long time ago that there is a lot in life not worth getting upset about. It just makes you miserable along with the person you're upset at.
@antonbunot (9506)
• Calgary, Alberta
4 Dec
Are you sure he did not slap you intentionally?
• United States
4 Dec
Bill is the sweetest man, and the one thing I can be positive about is there is no way on the face of the earth that he would intentionally hit me. He has such a gentle spirit, he has even been crying over the deaths of my furry family in the fire that burned down my home on October second of this year. If either of us tries to talk about the dog or cats that were killed we both cry our hearts out! That's how I know after seventeen years together that he would NEVER strike me on purpose, that his hitting me on the ear was an accident. One other thing that proves to me that he didn't hit me intentionally is that he retired after 28 years on the police force. His service was recognized as honorable, and even the people he had to arrest would come up to him in public and greet him with big smiles, hugs, and friendly polite conversation. They didn't treat him with disrespect or any form of rudeness or the kind of treatment you would expect from someone who had broken the law. They treated him like a favorite family member or a friend they hadn't seen for a few years. You don't receive that kind of treatment if you treat people roughly and intentionally hit them.
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• Calgary, Alberta
4 Dec
@BearArtistLady I was just kidding. My wife and I have been married for 38 years . . . although we had some petty quarrels from time to time, she is the sweetest, most generous, very understanding, and loving woman. I love her to pieces. So, I know there are wonderful people like your loving BILL.
• United States
4 Dec
@antonbunot I knew and you knew you were kidding, but there are some people out there that take EVERYTHING seriously. It's like telling Bill about the dream I had last night. I dreamt that I was in college and I farted. It was soooooo awful smelling that it made the administration evacuate the school! I was sitting in one of the class rooms laughing like crazy, (in the dream) and the instructor came in with the school newspaper which had a huge article about the horrible smelly fart. I laughed even harder (in my dream). It turns out that Bill farted rather loudly and it was while I was laughing... he was sure I was laughing at him! But we agreed a long time ago to discuss things, and we both had a great laugh over the farts! Its all a matter of how one sees the world and humor!
@CoralLevang (40896)
• United States
10 Nov
How wonderful that he has opened his home to you. It is difficult to live with someone after living alone so long. I have lived alone for 20 years, with the exception of a very brief 6 months many years ago.
@Happy2BeMe (69953)
• Canada
4 Nov
It is good that you have each other and that you have good communication. Opposites do attrack.