Is he made the right decision?

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
November 21, 2017 6:18am CST
My Aunt from my Father's side was furious because of my 3rd Brother who made his decision living with someone who has 2 sons from other guys. Before that, we remind him that it is not okay living with someone who has kids already but he did not listen to us. 5 days ago, his partner gave birth to his second son, so in total of two sons of his own, and aside from that, he owns the two kids with his partner. Now he has trouble how to fill the responsibility of having a big Family. He said he didn't expect it will be an issue for him for taking the responsibility.
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@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
21 Nov 17
When responsibility hits you..
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@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
22 Nov 17
@JustBhem I'm fine.. feel great, how about you? sorry for being absent for so long
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Nov 17
@tech40 Hey, nothing to say sorry about. We understand you're being absent here.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Nov 17
Oh, there you are. How are you? It's been a long time.
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@BigTalpha (117)
21 Nov 17
There's nothing wrong with being with someone who already has children. If he knew that she already had children and he chose to be with her he should have made sure that he could afford to take care of them before having other children. I don't see how they're having any problems I'm sure she's working being a single mother before she got with him and I'm sure she should be getting child support as well. It just sounds to me like he's trying to use that as an excuse to want to leave her. He needs to man up be a father and a husband boyfriend or fiance whichever he is to her because you're not going to tell me that she wasn't taking care of herself or her kids before she got with him.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
As we know, she doesn't get any support from the Father of his two kids. My 3rd Brother has a Family before choosing the woman with two kids already. And that she has one daughter with his first partner. Do you think it is right? Leaving the first partner with a daughter to a woman with 2 kids already?
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
@BigTalpha Oh yes, but still he needs to stand firm for he is no longer a single guy. He is a Family guy now.
21 Nov 17
@JustBhem That depends on the circumstances of his previous relationship. We don't always know what's going on between them to make them leave each other.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
21 Nov 17
on what circumstances did they part ..depends on that. But i agree taking kids responsibility is really huge one we have to be financially sound to support them
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
Of course, because dealing with a big family is very hard when it comes to finances.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
21 Nov 17
he should shoulder all the responsibilities because he chose to.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
Of course, he needs to. He was the one who gets into this trouble then he needs to take care of it.
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@tzwrites (4835)
• Romania
22 Nov 17
It may be hard but it's not fair of your family to judge the partner with two kids from another relationship. At the end of the day, "traditional" families are just a myth. Being married to 1 person for your entire life doesn't make everyone happy.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Nov 17
I understand what you mean, and we are not judging her. It just so happens they have a both have a bad start.
@crafty01 (480)
• Jamshedpur, India
21 Nov 17
Its a mammoth responsibility, I hope will take things in a positive way.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
I hope so. His obligation to be a Father.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
22 Nov 17
as long as the girl is a nice girl, i think there is no problem.. but raising a big family would be hard, i hope he can do it
@averygirl72 (37770)
• Philippines
22 Nov 17
So he has two kids of his own from his partner. That's really a problem. He has to work hard to raise all the children
@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
21 Nov 17
He was not mature enough to take a decision. Now he is discovering that he is not ready to take care of a big family.
@JudyEv (326690)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Nov 17
There is a lot of adjusting to be done just moving in or marrying someone let alone taking on a ready-made family.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Nov 17
I hope he will think about every single decision he makes before feeding a big family.
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