The spirit of Christmas.
December 1, 2017 4:17pm CST
A long time ago, before a lot of bad things happened to us as a family, we had Christmas at my home. We would have a real tree with all the ornaments that we had done over the years plus some boughten ones for the elegance. The children would sing carols (villancicos) and then, after a tea time with cake and sandwichs, they would sing Noche de Paz (Silent Night) and the presents would be handed to each of them. My last Christmas was 17 years ago. I was just a widow and Tomás, my grandson, had been diagnosed with a very aggressive type of cancer. I call that Christmas "Tomás Christmas". We all gave him gifts beyond our means. He sang with the rest of the children and was elated with his gifts. The next year we did not have Tomás. But my daughters said it would not be fair to leave the other children without a Christmas. So we bought gifts and Christmas was celebrated in Claudia´s house. It was not the same and Claudia and I hid to cry a bit taking care that Carolina did not see us. Every Christmas I remember my little boy. And every Christmas we celebrate Christmas at what would have been his house, had he lived. I´m the old lady in charge of placing the wrappers in a bag. And I sing with them before the presents are given. And tell my grandchildren that Christmas is about love. Merry Christmas!!!
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I lost my brother after the New Year, on the 5th of Jan of 1999...and before that happened we used to have a very festive Christmas and New Year celebrations...but for almost 10 years after that the festivities were muted...it took everyone a long time to get over his passing because he was the baby of our family, and with family I mean like the whole extended family with our grandparents down to our nieces and nephews...my mother is the youngest of 12 siblings we were very close...but change is inevitable but it’s important to let each other know that the love will always be which will stay constant...
Christmas is bittersweet for many people. We tend to remember those who are not with us any longer. Thank you for the good wishes. I hope you have a blessed Christmas season....sharing the love. The video I posted yesterday is about that love.
Merry Christmas to you too, very heartening story, I have great Christmas memories too, from a very traditional family but I must say that the value of this holiday is decreasing with time, I get nostalgic every Christmas nowadays because it was different, more fun and tradition back in the day.
Now it is my turn to cry a bit reading this post of yours... Must be partly because of the gloomy weather we are having here. How old would your grandson be if he was still alive? Didn't know that you have lost your husband that long. I thought he just passed away a few couple of years ago max. (Tomas has been with his grandpa 16 years.)
@marguicha It breaks my heart to see young lives cut short. My kids have some classmates who are not well. One is in and out of hospitals constantly with cancer (a very intelligent young man). The other has asthma and whatever else, even though he looks very healthy and big/giant.
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Yes it is a joyous season that is celebrated and made of love, you are wonderful to keep Thomas in your heart and demonstrate to the rest of the family that he is never to be forgotten ! Merry Christmas to you and the family Marguicha