Nice but gabby neighbor

@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
December 18, 2017 3:17pm CST
My neighbor is so sweet. She does all she can for her family and is teaching her teenage kids good work ethics. She is the one that sends over someone to mow the yard when it needs it. One time I did not even have the money but she said I could pay her son later. She even had her daughter come do it once because we needed it and her daughter needed some shoes. How wonderfully old school is that. I really love this lady. She came by to bring us a Christmas card this morning and daughter was on the back porch relaxing before laying down to sleep because she works tonight.(my daughter, not neighbor) I feel I should ask her in as she is nice and it is only courteous. plus she has several health issues and always inquires about mine. But, the lady (neighbor) really loves to talk I can relate because I love to talk too. But there is a time you start feeling like (or I do) you have to go on about your business or like myself just lay back down. How do you do that without being rude? Daughter had come in by then prepared to lay down and I could tell she needed to but no one knew how to break the conversation. Finally I just said " oh J. , I can see you are getting sleepy and need your rest. " to my daughter. Right away neighbor picked up on it and said she needed to get back. she seemed okay with that too. So I just hope she doesn't feel I did wrong to her. she seemed fine with it. How do you handle this? And heres another nice card we can hang up.
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
19 Dec 17
What you said is not rude and she understood. It's hard sometimes to cut a conversation without offending people.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
oh yes and i have been told i don't always say things the way they are meant. just glad i didn't offend her.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
@LadyDuck yes and part of you don't want to, but with me i really have to lay down after a bit. i sat with my feet on the floor and in the chair so long, my leg fell asleep. not good. i have to watch things like that.
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
20 Dec 17
@bunnybon7 One of my neighbor is very kind, but when she starts talking she never stops. It's hard to find a way to stop without being rude.
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@moffittjc (118820)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec 17
There's been times when I have flat out said, "It's been great talking to you, but I'm in a rush..." or "I'd love to talk more with you later, but right now I have to get going..." Most people are understanding of our time constraints.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 17
@moffittjc takes more strategy for sure
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Dec 17
problem is i had asked her in our house. but the visit went way long. and she knows i don't go any where.
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@moffittjc (118820)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Dec 17
@bunnybon7 Oh goodness, yeah it would be a little harder to do if you're in your own house!
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Dec 17
At least she picked up on her need to leave @bunnybon7 . There are some people who just don't get it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Dec 17
she is a pretty smart cookie. lol. and so nice
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
@nanette64 certainly is
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Dec 17
@bunnybon7 It's rare to have good neighbors like that any more.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
19 Dec 17
Nice card.. seems you did it in a nice way.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Dec 17
I really hope so. she really is a sweet person.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
19 Dec 17
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@Hannihar (129681)
• Israel
1 Jul 18
@bunnybon7 She sounds like a very nice neighbor but when you want to get things done and your daughter needs to sleep before she goes to work it is hard to know how to end the conversation and be polite about it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jul 18
i know. but daughter could have just told her, "well i have to get some sleep. sorry. love talking with you but got to lay down" thats pretty polite.
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@Hannihar (129681)
• Israel
3 Jul 18
@bunnybon7 That is very polite. Hope you had a good rest.
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@YrNemo (20261)
19 Dec 17
I faced that problems often in the past, I got beautiful neighbors! But some doorknockers were not so nice, so I learned to: - twitched my nose a bit, sniff sniff, 'Oh no, sorry, I have to run, I left something on the stove and it is burnt I think' (That happened truly one day, and that time, the person whom I talked to, sneaked into my house while I was busy with the pot, and ran away with some of our properties. Naughty thief!) - Oh no, the phone is ringing, I have to answer... (happened true too, a few times, but I thought I could use that excuse!) - etc
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
well i am glad so far that has not happened here. but did happen many years ago once in california when we lived there with a thief coming by
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
@YrNemo just a very nasty bad person was she
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@YrNemo (20261)
20 Dec 17
@bunnybon7 Not so nice those people! That specific person was supposed to teach my kids piano. I found out she was a hopeless case (play worse than me!). When I realized she also sneaked off with some of my properties while I was busy with the stove, I got a bit upset.
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@shaggin (71678)
• United States
18 Dec 17
Sometimes it is hard to get someone to take a hint to leave. Looks like your neighbor took the hint well thankfully.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
she is pretty smart at times when off her pain pills. she has a bunch of health issues like myself. but she is very sweet and kind too. reason why i would not like to offend her
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@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
19 Dec 17
my mom does this every day. I sometimes call her when she is needed some place else and the conversation is broken
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
that might be another nice way to fix the problem without being rude.
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Dec 17
Beautiful card. =) I think you did that in the nicest way possible.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
thank you. it must be my age and a lot of experience through the years.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
21 Dec 17
I always find that being honest is the best policy. I am sure she would have understood that your daughter needed to go to sleep.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Dec 17
yes and she did. also i think she realized i had been sitting long enough.
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
18 Dec 17
You did the right thing.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
thank you
@rina110383 (24495)
19 Dec 17
Cute Christmas Card!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 17
it is lovely. i love all i get.