Do you have a very good Friends Forever person who hasn't shown up in a long time?

Dallas, Texas
December 22, 2017 10:40am CST
I am sad to say, yes, we have a few best friends forever people, who we have known since they were in diapers. They do not come around much any more. This is a lesson learned, later in life, when we all get past 60. People are no longer around, or are far away or too sick to travel. It is our lot in life. It is like that everywhere. But the concept I grew up with, the so-called, nuclear family, has become a bit of a legend rather than the actual way in which friends and family live today. Times have changed. It may not even be possible to keep track of anyone who moves away or dies, because people just don't keep track of their long term friends and family after the past, the long years have gone by, taking things into an entirely new direction on the social levels we seem to have adopted in this new age of internet, streaming video, digital phones and online shopping. Our own social trends have changed to a point that make our immediate lifestyles realize a difference in the direction that all people are going from all over the world. Personally, I hate it. Yes. I actually do not like the internet. It is unsafe to go online unless you are very smart and avoid getting scammed by crooks who are out to steal your money, your identity and put a virus in your computer so you have to go out and buy a new one once every one or three or four years. I hate it that people don't talk to each other any more, in public or in private. People are hooked on their social media, their live stream videos and texting. It is like I went to sleep in the 70s, then woke up in the year 2017 only to realize I was living in a place more like science fiction than the days I knew and loved. But it isn't impossible to adapt. It isn't impossible to use this new technology to improve our social relationships. The idea is, if you have friends on Facebook or Twitter, make sure you have your family and friends that you have known your entire lifetime, on your Skype or your Facebook list so you can actually TAKE TIME TO MAKE TIME for them. Otherwise, if half of those who you grew up with in the 60s and 70s and 80s still don't use social media, and half don't even own a mobile phone, it is not going to be easy for you to keep track of them if you don't still use a pen and paper and an envelope and an address book handy. Christmas time reminds me that some of my own personal relationships have gone off the deep end because I have spent too much time online and not enough time, just calling them by phone to actually have a conversation with them, or at least, drop them a snail mail letter with a greeting card once a year. That is the bare minimum and the cost of one postage stamp is far less than the cost per minute on a mobile right?
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• United States
22 Dec
No I do not Anthony.
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
Well, in any case, I really hope your weekend holiday time is fun.
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• United States
23 Dec
@lookatdesktop It is a roll of the dice here..but I do try very well to make it so Anthony, thank you and you as well.
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
@TiarasOceanView , Yes, its like rolling dice but no one wins 'cause the casino is closed.
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@Angela150 (957)
• London, England
23 Dec
Yes it is exceptionally sad that people are loosing their abilities to socialise. People are sending emails and messages instead of picking up the phone or visiting friends and relatives in person!
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
Yes, it is a state of change that leaves many of us feeling more alone than even before. Being able to meet with someone, face to face is much more satisfying and enjoyable to me, but maybe I am just old school.
• London, England
23 Dec
@lookatdesktop Yes that's why one of my resolutions is to socialise more this year.
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
@Angela150 . I hope you make some good friends. Mainly my resolution is not to make any new resolutions but take each day as it comes. I don't think I manage to ever follow through on weight loss or other things. I will be likely more tending to keep to myself and just read more. I never get enough time to read. I always spend time doing things that don't get anything accomplished. That is perhaps what I need to work on more from now through 2018. Meantime, I am certainly worried about the tensions between America and Russia and North Korea. These things keep me up at nights.
@Traceyjayne (1113)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec
I have been in touch on fb with some people from my teenage years at school over the past few years. We message and 'like' things we each post.... then I start to think ..oh I haven't seen anything from ? recently and try to get their page to find they have left....No other way of chatting to them so friendship gone ...or postponed til they come back....very sad !
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
Exactly. Sad isn't it?
• United Kingdom
23 Dec
@lookatdesktop very sad. This happened recently ...and ... must be the power of your posting ... a friend is back on fb this morning x
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
@Traceyjayne , I am happy that there was a good and positive event that occurred as a result of my post.
@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
23 Dec
I think yes. Just can't remember their names.
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
Yes, I try to put a list together and keep it somewhere I can later find it easily.
@db20747 (9071)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
22 Dec
Yes, and it's way past time to get back in touch. My family is asking about them. Other friends are asking about them and I'm wondering about them. It's time to drop them a letter.
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• Dallas, Texas
23 Dec
- Good thing for you to do. I think that is very thoughtful.