Does your significant other not tell you something ahead of time?

Staten Island, New York
February 1, 2018 3:34pm CST
Today is my husband's day off. I was looking forward to spending the day with him. Maybe even going to see the new Maze Runner movie. As usual, I couldn't get him to wake up and get out of bed. So, I got up and made breakfast and then went to tell him to get up as food was ready. Took some time before he actually came to the kitchen... Our breakfast was sometime after 11 am. After we ate, I went to do the dishes and he went to shower. He came downstairs when he was done, all dressed to leave somewhere. I asked him where he is going, and he told me he is going to work to take care of some stuff for tomorrow. That made me upset. Not just that I wouldn't get to spend the day with him, but also that he didn't see the need to tell me earlier that he was gonna go to work. You don't wait till you are ready to leave to tell your wife you are going to go to work on your day off. That's disrespectful. You say it the night before, or at the very least in the morning, especially if you know you are going to go to work and it's not a spur of the moment thing. And you ask if the wife needs help with something or has any plans made, etc. before you leave. Also, you certainly don't leave the house without saying a word. He has done that enough times and that's even worse. I guess he doesn't think he is being disrespectful or is doing anything wrong when he does things like that. Wonder if other men do that as well and think that it's okay. Does your significant other not tell you something ahead of time or leave without saying a word?
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@jstory07 (66134)
• Roseburg, Oregon
1 Feb
My husband has always told me things. We worked out everything ahead of time.
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• Staten Island, New York
1 Feb
That's the way it should be.
@EddieHands (37852)
• United States
1 Feb
Well i am single and have no lover. so they never tell me anything. I only talk to the vodka bottles here.. Blessings
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• Staten Island, New York
1 Feb
So you do have a lover then.
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@EddieHands (37852)
• United States
1 Feb
@lovebuglena i do not. I wish my fav actress loved me. But I suppose today I will have to settle for a shot of vodka
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• Staten Island, New York
1 Feb
@EddieHands I was referring to the vodka.
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• United States
1 Feb
That would make me so frustrated. I am sorry that happened. My boyfriend is really good at communicating. Sometimes hell tell me things more than once so I don't forget. Maybe he's out getting your V-Day presents? :)
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• Staten Island, New York
1 Feb
Nope. He went to work. And he may do other errands after, like getting a haircut.
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@Corbin5 (103333)
• United States
1 Feb
My husband has done that on occasion. I agree that not alerting your significant other about plans made is definitely inappropriate behavior.
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@JudyEv (121368)
• Bunbury, Australia
1 Feb
Mostly we remember to tell each other what's supposedly happening ahead of time. I'm sorry your day was ruined.
@Courtlynn (64470)
• United States
1 Feb
I'm sorry you feel disrespected. I would too. I hope you mentioned it to him, or will, so that it hopefully doesn't happen again.
@marlina (72819)
• Canada
1 Feb
I would have been very upset.