Touch confusion

@vandana7 (98834)
India
February 19, 2018 12:17pm CST
I believe a girl can accuse a guy of touching inappropriately out of confusion. Teenagers in particular. Little children can be confused too. They feel difference no doubt. But if they are not forewarned, they may have this conflict of ..this is somebody parents said is trustworthy so what he is doing is alright...different but alright till it is too late. Their problem arises from trust on their parents or other adults whom they trusted. In case of teens the problem is acute. They don't know if touching which was right till yesterday, how or when or which becomes wrong. Sometimes innocent touch gets labeled as wrong, and wrong touch seems difficult to condemn since previously condemning something had led to an innocent suffering. There is also the fear of hurting others wrongly and feeling of regret - was I right, or was I wrong. How have you all gone through your teen years? Have you all faced similar situations? And having been through it, would you consider accidentally hand slipping on fellow passenger in flight as molestation? This post is inspired by @nomus24g and Zaira Wasim's case.
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• United States
20 Feb 18
any touchin' that makes one feel uncomfy 'tis inappropriate. sadly most 're taught not to question such 'n when that person tells someone, they're asked what they did to instigate such 'havior 'n thus they fall silent 'n worse thingies occur :(
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@vandana7 (98834)
• India
20 Feb 18
I have had folks touch me inappropriately and yet innocently. When the hand or body part that touches others is removed instantaneously, I count it as innocent. When the guy looks in eyes and lets the hand remain there it is not innocent. When the guy pretends that he is not aware of it, and lets it be, then it is not innocent.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
19 Feb 18
People over reacting is what gets to me.
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@vandana7 (98834)
• India
20 Feb 18
But that is the stage when the girls are themselves confused, which touch is right and which is not. All the more reasons for people to keep distance at that stage. Between 13 to 30 ..it is best being a bit aloof.
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@LadyDuck (458230)
• Switzerland
20 Feb 18
I have never over reacted if one of my age touched me innocently. Of course there were limits where they could put their hands. What disgusted me was the fact of an old man tried to touch me when I was only 13. I will never forget this. I was lucky enough to escape, but from that day on I never trusted people anymore.
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@RasmaSandra (73473)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Feb 18
One of the things that teens most often suffer through. If I could I avoided dangerous situations like the plague because I was painfully shy.
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@vandana7 (98834)
• India
19 Feb 18
Ironically, there are Indians who are not understanding the teen's situation. Instead, they think she accused wrongly since there is no corroborative evidence. If the hand that falls accidentally is not swiftly taken away then it is intentional and inappropriate.
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