When Both Of Your Parents Are Sick

@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
March 20, 2018 4:48am CST
Our family is undergoing so much sadness. As I have posted last December, our mother had a stroke. She’s still bedridden but can be made to seat already in her wheelchair. She still cannot speak and her right side is paralyzed. She’s having her physical therapy. Lately, my diabetic father was hospitalized because of severe pain in his stomach. It was discovered that he has a tumor of 7 cm in his liver. His body aches are because of gout and the liver. An operation is ruled out by the doctors because he is too old to survive it. He is 85 this coming May. So, now both of them are bedridden, though they can be transferred on their wheelchairs. Our father is experiencing pain. He doesn’t want to be hospitalized. He doesn’t eat solid so his food is blended. It’s so sad that both of them is now helpless. We are looking for alternative medicines. Hopefully, when we find one it can make him feel better as was shown on TV for those who had them.
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@just4him (306239)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Mar 18
I'm sorry both your parents are so ill. I hope you are able to find some alternative medicine that will help them.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Yes, we are doing all we can to help alleviate his pain. He said he is so tired already and wants to leave us forever. But we said we will be doing all we can to make him better.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Mar 18
@just4him yes, i know that now.
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@just4him (306239)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I know it's sad when parents get to that point.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
20 Mar 18
I am really sorry, I know how sad it is to see our parents suffering. I wish your father can at least be free of pain.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. Last night, he was brought to the hospital because he again has a severe pain in the stomach. The doctor said there is nothing more that can be done except to give pain relievers.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I hope they have a serious pain relief system for cancer patients. My mother-in-law had liver cancer, she was kept in the hospital, she did not suffer at all.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
It's really sad to see old folks go into these kind of illness. I wouldn't want to grow old sick and be a burden to my son. That's why I try my best to be healthy because prevention is always better. And I'm not depriving myself of delicious food anyway. But I'm giving myself and my family a healthier option.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD My mother in law never eats vegetables. And I don't eat a lot of veggies too as I am not really a vegetable person, but I try to avoid any food that can harm my health.. My MIL has never been sick or has any serious illness and she's in her mid 60s.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@toniganzon Really. There is a naturopathy doctor in Salamat Doc and a lot is giving their testimonies that their tumor shrank by taking his Live Green juice- powder put into water. We will be trying that for him.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Yes, that is true. I can't help feeling so sad when I hear him sigh because of the pain he is experiencing, despite the pain reliever. I am with you there. That is why, I am now always exercising 30 minutes a day and wake up early just to do that. I also try to eat lots of veggies and minimal meat.
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@JudyEv (325793)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 18
I am so sorry for you all. It is very sad when parents get to this stage.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. What saddens us most is they become at the same time helpless.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@JudyEv That is true.
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@JudyEv (325793)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I can understand that. From being strong people who looked after us, suddenly they need our help for almost everything.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
20 Mar 18
That is very hard - both parents at the same time. Isn't there a treatment to shrink the tumor and relieve his pain?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Indeed. Operation, was ruled out because he is already old, going 85 and the doctors said he will not survive the operation. Pain relievers are given to him to ease the pain. He was brought to the hospital last night, when the pain in his stomach was severe. But still, he was refusing to no avail anymore.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Mar 18
I am sorry to hear that. I hope that they are okay. I would also feel the same if my parents are bedridden and unable to do what they want.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. My mother though bedridden is now responsive of the medicines and her bp is always normal. She can even move her right paralyzed leg already. But our father, has to be brought to the hospital last night because he is feeling so much pain in his stomach.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@mlgen1037 My father now has cancer of the liver. But he cannot be operated on already because of his old age. Thank you for your prayers, it is what he needs.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I am sorry to know about your father. What is the finding why your sad experiences stomach pain? I am glad to hear thought that your mom is getting better and able to move little by little. Thats great improvement. Praying all will be okay.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Mar 18
I am really sorry to know this. I can understand the pain, But we have to move on and I hope some medicines will work for them. It is difficult to taking care of them since both are in bed. We have to do our duties as their children. Be bold and taking care of them.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Good thing, my sisters were there to take care of them, along with brother-in-law and adult nephews.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD That is really great to know their children are around them to give strength.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
4 Apr 18
So sorry to hear about this. It must be really hard when they are both suffering at the same time.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Apr 18
Indeed , it is difficult and sad for all of us sisters and people in their house. They now have their respective hospital bed. I am happy though, that my 3 sisters, a brother-in-law and nephews who take care of them.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Actually, two of my sisters who separated from their husbands, more than two decades ago, lived with my father and mother. Their 3 children each, were sent to school until College by my father, who was then a judge. Now, it's all their turn to give back to my parents.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
4 Apr 18
@SIMPLYD Yes it's good that you have plenty of family members to take care of them,
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
20 Mar 18
Sorry to hear about your parents. Just take good care of them and spend a lot of time with them. I just hope your father will have no longer pains.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. Yes, the least that we could all do is to be with them always. Our sister, came home to be with him the past days. My prayer is for God to take him already rather than him suffering in pain.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 18
@thelme55 It was untimely indeed for your.moves.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
3 Apr 18
@SIMPLYD yes, it was.
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@kavinitu (5535)
• India
20 Mar 18
I am sorry to hear about your parents. They both will be fine, you don't worry. Be Strong. I will pray for your parents. Take care
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. Your prayers will be so much appreciated.
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Apr 18
Oh no, never knew about this latest news. I heard about your mother getting sick at the time, and have been busy lately. Your sisters and you have taken turns to take care of the parents?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Apr 18
@YrNemo An alternative doctor said he can still be treated to be well with his liver cancer. But it will cost a million or two. My father said, no more because anyway he has lived a long time already. He is 85 this May. He already wants to die and be with our Creator.
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@YrNemo (20261)
12 Apr 18
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
I feel deeply sorry for what had happen to your parents.I hope they will feel better soon.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. My mother is okay, responsive to the physical therapy. It's now our father we are focusing care of.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
20 Mar 18
That's very sad to hear about your parents...it's your responsibility of taking care of them..be with them my dear friend.. hopefully they will be alright..I pray for them
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Yes, we are now doing all we can to give him a tender loving care. He really has given up hope and said that he is ready to die already. Thank you.
@deba12 (2951)
• India
20 Mar 18
Alternative treatment methods are great options for diabetic patients. When people get old, they will suffer. But, i really becomes difficult if you have to manage both of them single-handedly. You can hire a full time nurse who will take care of them.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Yes, we are researching for alternative medicines. I hope it can at least alleviate his pains. No need for a nurse, because my brother-in-law, sisters and nephews are there at his beck and call and with them at their house. It's when we hear our father sigh because of pain when we feel so useless. The doctor said he is already having his last days.
• China
27 Mar 18
I am sorry for you! It does pain you to see that disease condemns your parents to wheelchairs.Hope the physical therapy will help your mother's paralysis.Now what you can do is how to ease your father's pain.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Mar 18
Thank you. My mother.now is being trained.how to erect by the beside. She's responsive. Meanwhile, my father is now at home.back feom thw hospital. We hired an experienced nursw.to administer those.medicines.in IV. He has lesser pain too now .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
@changjiangzhibin89 indeed it will. She's.on twice a week phyaical therapy.
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• China
30 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD The physiotheraphy will help your mother's paralysis,only it takes some time.Glad to learn that your father has lesser pain now!
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Mar 18
Sorry to hear this of your parents not well.. I hope you’ll find some alternative medicines for your Dad and your mom gets better soon with the help of therapy... Sending best wishes...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Mar 18
Thank you. So far he is at home and somehow lesser pain. We hired a nurse who will.put those dextrose and othe IV medicines.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
@epiffanie The nurse lives just near our place. He comes.here when we need.him. Just a text away.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
30 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD oh that's good to know ..
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
11 Apr 18
I am sorry they are sick. It is really difficult to see them suffer of pain. I told my father to have his check up again to see if his liver is now healthy.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Apr 18
Yes, tell him to have a check-up. We were surprised that my father had it -liver cancer.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Apr 18
@jobelbojel Thank you.
@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
12 Apr 18
@SIMPLYD Hope and pray that they will have more strength and complete healing coming their ways.
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@wolfgirl569 (95190)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Mar 18
So sorry to hear. Hope they can make both of your parents comfortable at least. Mine just passed last year.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Mar 18
@wolfgirl569 Oh that is so sad.
@wolfgirl569 (95190)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD Yes Mom passed in August unexpectedly then Dad went in October but we were expecting his as he had been with hospice care for a few months because of how severely his health had declined.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I am sad of what your family is undergoing through right now. I hope and pray that you will overcome this.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
Thank you. We are surprised though that our father has suddenly been discovered to have cancer of the liver and it is what is causing him so much pain in addition to his gout.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@rakski My sister said she will try the all raw diet which will be juiced. She saw it on Facebook. I hope it will work.
@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
21 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD that is really surprising. What are the supplements have you tried for him?
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@DianneN (246850)
• United States
27 Mar 18
I'm soooo very sorry! I'm sure you are doing everything you can to make both parents comfortable. Prayers for you all.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Mar 18
Thank you. Your prayers are appreciated much. My father is at home.already and somehow with lesser pain.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 18
@DianneN Thank you so much for including them in your prayers. Luv u friend.
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@DianneN (246850)
• United States
30 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD I'm so happy to hear that. I have been praying daily and will continue to do so.
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