Loving someone who loves other woman for 17 years

Philippines
March 30, 2018 10:11pm CST
I woman married to his first and only boyfriend for almost 14 years but she`s been loving other man for 17 years. Is this called cheating? She loves him but they were never in a relationship. However, they had confronted each other`s feelings when they were in college but they did not started their relationship. When the woman got married, the man was there and attended her wedding. They have been friends for years now. But the woman still has feelings for that man and they were never gone. The man, however, started having an on and off relationships with other women. But he never knew that the woman is still loving her. But, anyway, was the woman cheating?
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4 responses
31 Mar
yes, cheating is not necessarily about being physical or making contact with the person she is interested in. it is cheating because she is betraying her husband emotionally, she has to live with the fear of him finding that out and his reaction thereafter.
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• Philippines
31 Mar
Oh, I forgot to mention the husband knows about it before they started their relationship. And even before they got married. I think the husband knows about it but is not taking it seriously since his wife and that man did not have a relationship all this time.
• Philippines
31 Mar
But I definitely agree with your statement that cheating is not necessarily about making physical contact .
31 Mar
@MrsPumpkins true, the guilt of being caught having feelings for another man makes you a cheat
@mlgen1037 (9445)
• Manila, Philippines
31 Mar
I do not know if my respond would make others agree or not, but in my opinion, NO. It is only cheating when she makes any action to entertain that feeling. Many people marry but they do not love each other. So it is only natural that they love someone else for that matter but still married and doing their responsibilities as husband and wife. Better that the woman not tell the guy about her feelings because the guy might insist to the girl that they have a relationship.
@Jessabuma (7644)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Mar
Very well explained Louise. I am not married yet but I learned a lot here. You are very great in advising . Especially about marriage.
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@mlgen1037 (9445)
• Manila, Philippines
31 Mar
@Jessabuma thank you, Jessa. That is why before you get married, make sure you really love the guy and you have completely gotten over your past.
@Jessabuma (7644)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Mar
@mlgen1037 I will remember your words Louise. I really thank you
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• New Delhi, India
31 Mar
I dont think the woman is in love at all with the one whom she calls a friend .
• Philippines
31 Mar
Thanks for sharing your opinion. But why do you think she`s not in love to the man she thought she was in love with?
• New Delhi, India
31 Mar
@MrsPumpkins It all depends on her
@rheicel (5713)
• Philippines
4 Apr
Yes, I think so because she hasn't been honest about how she really feels. She's already married and she must renounce what she feels about the other man.