He's so confusing. Can you Help me?
By Faith Davies
@faithhhyyy (322)
United States
April 5, 2018 6:55pm CST
Long story short I met this guy last year in my Chemistry class and we became really good friends. This year (Junior Year) I decided to bit the bullet and tell him I like him. After I told him he became awkward and stopped talking to me. After a while, we began to hang out at lunch and get to know each other better. We would always walk each other to our classes (Since they are close together). For Valentine's day, I got him a card because he is also my friend/crush. He surprised me with a jar full of candy. I thought it was a nice gesture. He's become more touchy-feely and he teases me a lot. However recently when we are together in a group he will talk to me. But when we are alone has quiet and reserved he has started to avoid me; but he just stares at me constantly. I know he's a shy guy but after I told him we are cool. Some days he asks me a bunch of questions and seems interested, then other days he ignores me and I feel like I have done something wrong. Why is he doing this??
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@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
6 Apr 18
If you really like him, just keep talking to him. He will come around. Has he had relationships before? Guys do get pretty weird sometimes, but they come around eventually. Men think women are confusing when they are way more confusing than anything.
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
No he has never had a gf; I never had a bf...i have always been so shy.
@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
6 Apr 18
Talk to him directly to clear things up so you would know what his real intention to you so you don't have to guess and think anymore. If you don't have the guts to confront him you can text or message him.
@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
7 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy It depends. Do you know him well? Like his attitude or personality?
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
7 Apr 18
@rheicel yes i do....he has been behaving differently around me
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
How do you start the conversation without making it uncomfortable?
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
6 Apr 18
How old is he? He sounds like a confused teenager. A part of him really likes you and the other part is confused about the way he feels. Maybe he is not ready for a relationship yet.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy He probably doesn't know himself yet. Give him a little time so he can figure it out.
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
8 Apr 18
hes my age 17...im not ready but i just want to know how he feels
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
8 Apr 18
@sprite1950 I will! Do you think he could be interested?
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
6 Apr 18
I think you had better ask him these questions.Maybe he will tell you, then you won't be worried any more.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
6 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy Maybe both of you are too shy. I'm an outgoing person. I always ask my hubby what I want to know. I just can't wait. Haha!
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
8 Apr 18
@caopaopao i wish i was outgoing to say something
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Just keep talking to him, if it is meant to be it will all work out, he might just be taking things slow so he doesn't get hurt
@cintol (11261)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy Well you could always tell him you are just looking for a friend to hang out with at this time, nothing serious. Maybe it will loosen him up a little knowing that.
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Thank you so much for the advice....I honestly don't want to rush into a relationship right now I just want to get to know him better. I guess it's also fear on my part as well.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
6 Apr 18
Mixed signals. Did you try to talk to him why he is doing that?
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Honestly no, I am nervous to ask. Why would he show mixed signals?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
6 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy maybe to check your reactions on how you will deal with him in terms of his attitude. If I am unsure of why he is giving those different signals, I would have confronted him because I cant take it off my mind. hehhe
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 OMG right. there are so many feelings that I have bottled into one whenever I speak with him. Most of the time I want to tell him right then and there. But I always hold back.
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@marguicha (216342)
• Chile
6 Apr 18
Don´t presshim. Women grow up earlier than men. It seems that he likes you a lot but he does not dare go farther.
@marguicha (216342)
• Chile
6 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy I would not say anything. Just be nice and don´t expect anything until he decides what to do.
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Is there anything I can do to explain to him what he is doing without scaring him off.
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@marguicha Thank you for the advice. I am going to do what you said and let him tell me when the time is right.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Apr 18
I would be really confused if I were in your situation. But when I was in my younger years, I could never tell if a guy was ever interested in me unless they tell me so. I was very naive and I always assumed that they were close to me because we were friends and nothing else. Sometimes I'd just hear it from others that the guy was really into me but just couldn't tell me coz he thought I was just only interested at being friends.
But in your case, he fully knew well you like him. And any actions on his part that would show interest could only make you confuse. If you are that close as friends, I think it's time you ask him how he truly feels for you.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Apr 18
@faithhhyyy You have to if you want to stop guessing what he truly feels for you. And you don't want to make wrong assumptions that could destroy your friendship.
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
That could be a possibility. Thank you for the advice.
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@augusta123 (6649)
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6 Apr 18
He is also struggling with his thoughts,make things easy by being a bit more friendly
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Thank you! This will break the barrier and fear that I have when I speak to him.
@NoorNoor (2131)
• India
6 Apr 18
sounds He loves you.It's common to avoid you because of more love.He doesn't want to hurt you by his behaviour or his words.It's easy to talk when you are together in a group.It's very difficult to talk when you guys are alone.
And may be he will have any problems if He proposes you.So ask him directly.Don't be shy. Be bold.
@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Thank you...So he might have feelings as well but is too afraid to admit it?
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@faithhhyyy (322)
• United States
6 Apr 18
That is true...I always feel tense whenever I am around him.
