My siblings, how I miss them very much.
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27562)
Philippines
April 17, 2018 2:59am CST
My only regret in forfeiting my visa is that I will not get to see my siblings any time soon.
Perhaps the regret is valid as far as missing my siblings is concerned. My siblings missing me? Not much, I think. I am the post this, post that type with one too many commentary that do not jibe with others' opinions.
Of us sisters and brothers, i am the most talkative, most verbal, most graphic in story telling, the most loud, the most irrepressible, the most two and two equals hah, and dot dot dot. Am i emphatic enough?
My siblings grew up with no choice but be an audience to me.
Now, they are all in America. I am sad because we were bonded by flesh and blood, kin to each other, same womb, same placenta. And no one in the world shares that but us.
Gosh, I miss them so.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Apr 18
I still have my siblings here. One came back from the US after being sent there by his company. We are all here in Manila but two of my siblings are somewhere in the Metro and do not communicate with us much. But we make sure that we bond when we are together. 
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
That happens to siblings, especially if the outlaws are the intervening type. But don't let your siblings stray away. Life is not as happy without the ones we love.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Apr 18
@eileenleyva I always look out for t.hem but sometimes they feel that they are better off alone. My parents are sad because they are unable to see them for a long time. 
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 The ideal is to gather whenever there is an occasion, like a birthday. Sometimes, siblings stay away because they feel a little differently, like they don't belong. Or they felt hurt about something and would rather keep the distance.
I allow the silence, a time to heal and to grow.
But parents age by the day. The children's company are their hope and joy.
Do your best to summon your siblings. Invoke the fourth commandment. The blessings come from the parents. If they don't come, how would they receive their blessings.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Apr 18
Don´t they ever go over to see you at all?
Do they write to you at least by e-mail?
That would be better than nothing for the moment.
I know exactly how you feel but mine don´t want to see me at all or hear of me because I married whom I married.
The way it is bond or no bond they are having none of it and I have not heard from them in years.
I always have to be the one to communicate with everyone else in this country too.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
The last time my brother came home for a one week visit which I imposed, because I am older, was two years ago.
Communication is not a problem, there is the free viber calls now. But they are across the Pacific, halfway around the globe, we don't gather for celebrations any more.
I pray your siblings wouldn't outcast you for your choice of partner in life. God does not make mistakes. He gives us the person He wants us to live our lives with. Do your best to tell your siblings that your choice is perfectly in God's will.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 I do understand that, absolutely. I have in my relations kith and kin I have given up loving, too. The condescension they have made on my person have reached saturation point. So, I turned my back and lived my life.
I also wonder, if someday, they would come knocking at my door. I probably would not turn them away, too, but the loving again part will also be difficult.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Apr 18
@eileenleyva
They already knew that and did everything in the book to make our lives impossible while we were there.
So we came back here.
They are what they are and I am not breaking my back to change them.
I wonder if they will ever call at my door one day in need I do sometimes wonder that.
I would not turn them away but I would not fall in love with them either enough is enough.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
Very true. Like I always say, I'd take a bullet for my sibling.
There is that bond, is there not, that holds the love, even if we are grown-ups, with different lives?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
17 Apr 18
@eileenleyva May be they are busy with their own life but bonding will be there without any shake.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@Sreekala Yes, I do believe that, absolutely. My siblings are forever busy, come summer, come winter, as if they could not breathe any more, rushing to work, and more work, with little sleep.
Sometimes, I think, had they stayed in my country, we would be singing while my brother plays the guitar, or our eldest, the piano.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
are your siblings in america close to each other?
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
18 Apr 18
I know how it feels to miss siblings ... I don't feel the same anymore ..
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
18 Apr 18
There is apprehension on my part: would I miss my siblings as much years from now? We have different lives now, different culture.. I don't belong to their world. Gradually, they forget now our own. I do wonder why the separation from one's kin has to happen.
I do pray that does not happen to my two daughters.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
19 Apr 18
@epiffanie Jacob and Esau were twins. Esau sold his birthright for a bowl of soup. Jacob, with the help of his mother, fooled his father, pretended he was Esau and received the blessings. The twins had to part. Decades later, old and grey, the brothers met again and embraced each other, forgiving what happened in the past.
I believe that one day, siblings would find each other again, if it is in God's design. Hope springs eternal. Cherish the memories in your heart. When the time comes, show them the love. 
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
18 Apr 18
@eileenleyva Culture, distance and lifestyle definitely have something to do with family members' falling out ..
I too hope that what happened between me and my siblings won't happen to my boys ..
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@mohit459 Keep the communication. I call my sister as often as I can. It's the only way we hold on to our siblings.
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@mohit459 (12568)
• Haldwani, India
17 Apr 18
@eileenleyva no she in different city..
I'm from India!
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
Yes, the technology keeps us in touch. For that, I am grateful. But if I have my way, I would keep the siblings together. Life is short for us to dwell apart.
However, when I think of Esau and Jacob, twins whose destiny drifted them apart, I suppose it is our God's design to separate us from our kin, and make us live with neighbors whose eccentricities test our mettle. God said love your neighbors, sigh.
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
19 Apr 18
I miss my siblings, too. We were like cats and dogs when we were little. But now that we are at this age, i soooo love them. We call each other "BRA" as in like brasserie hahahaha because we support each other.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
19 Apr 18
A peculiar way to call each other, yes. But we call the brothers BRO, so BRA is your family endearment. 
My siblings were the reserved type. I was the only one noisy. So, we didn't have that cat and dog situation. I wish we did.