How many of you have gone through something very painful and tried to explain to others?

Yes I can totally relate to that. I've been through a lot of painful days ever since I was a child, it's so painful to the point I cannot share it with others. And when they tried to question my actions, I couldn't say a thing, I just let them judge me for what they see. I think everyone has painful experiences, they're just too narrow minded not to understand others.

Hanni, that is true that people will not understand the true extent of what we felt and experienced. But people are capable of compassion, however some people are just way too above themselves. Only an open-minded and compassionate person will understand that what you have experienced and felt is real and will empathize with you. That person will not pretend that she knows, but she comprehends.

I just let it go. Personally, I don't say much about my personal problems. However, if I have a partner, then she will know about such pain within. It is guaranteed that she will understand what's made in such position.

I usually don't share with the ones who can't understand me.

They would never understand you unless they're in your shoes.

Yes that's right. But I just kept it myself.. I don't like sharing it to others especially when they don't understand me at all..

One thing I learned in my life. I dont need to be defensive to someone who will never understand. i have friends who are good support system.

There is a saying "Never judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes". It is easy to misjudge or not understand something if you have never been through it yourself but I like to think I am an empathetic person so I do try to understand if someone is in pain either physically or emotionally.

I only share troublesome things with immediate family and my best friend.

That is why the rich are on a different wavelength from the poor. They cannot understand the bread and butter issues that assail the vast majority on a daily basis. I have gone through severe stresses in personal and work life but no one can understand the intensity and emotions that prevailed. Nowadays none has the time to lend a listening ear even! siva

They offer sympathy but u have to walk aile in a persons shoes to know their story!!

I remember the advice my brother gave me once "Help others and pray to God that you never need their help." Not everyone is emphatic or at least sensitive enough to try to understand you.

when i lost my mum my close cousin thought i was making too much of a big deal out of it. she kept telling me to be strong and the more she said that it hurt more. every time i sat alone she would say i should accept that it has happened and move on so i can stop sulking but the truth of the matter was that i couldn't express the pain i had inside of me as i was afraid of her judgmental comments. she would say things like other people have much more worse situations and i should get over it. i cut her out of my life and dealt with the pain on my own in my won way. so with that being said i think most people can try their best to be there for u but would never understand the pain one is feeling coz at times even you cant explain your own pain.