They look at me like a freak

Bucharest, Romania
May 24, 2018 6:00am CST
Hello my friends. Ever happened to you that some of your friends consider you a freak due to being different from the majority? But first things first: let me tell you what inspired me to post this discussion. In the world of civil engineering certain people make tons of money by buying cheaper materials than the ones prescribed by the project. Some of my fellow egineer colleagues have told me something like “let us be honest with ourselves. We would do the same if we had the chance” to which I replied with something like “no, I wouldn’t. Speak for yourself” to which they reply with “yes, you would” and I would reply “no, I wouldn’t” and they would look at me like a freak because of that. Another reason why people look at me like a freak is because I am vegan. They are like “omg, you don’t consume milk either?” to which I reply “yes, I don’t” consume milk either. Apparently for those people being honest and vegan is like being a freaky alien coming from another planet. What is your opinion on this issue?
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
24 May 18
Being honest in the midst of corruption would make you the odd man out. It's hard to stand up for your principles when there is peer pressure. But consider the job you're in, using cheaper and inferior construction material have safety consideration that might prove fatal.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
When it comes to building roads using cheaper materials is not fatal at all.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
@josie_ that is not fatal especially when the inspector is bribed to shut his mouth
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
24 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim _Fatal for you if the substandard road is investigated by quality control inspectors.
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@lynnief (1203)
• Australia
24 May 18
There are some times when it is good to be different, and being honest in a dishonest world is definitely one of those times. As for being vegan, I'm not, and I never want to be, but I don't see that being so makes you freaky. It would be a very boring world if we all thought the same about everything.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
I agree that it is ok to be different because if we were all the same life would be boring but I disagree with people being rude because of being different
@lynnief (1203)
• Australia
24 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim that's true. Just remember that their rudeness says far more about them than it does about you.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
24 May 18
I am looked at crazily every day of my life because I love Jesus but I don't mind! I would rather please my Father in Heaven all the days of my life. =)
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
I don’t mind it either but I just find it interesting that they are weirded out by the fact that some people are honest or vegan. They are amazed. They can’t believe it.
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
24 May 18
I do. I am weird to some of my friends and colleagues. Why? Because I am totally different from them. I always think that God created me with this uniqueness.
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
25 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim Uhm believer of what?
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
You a believer?
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• Bucharest, Romania
25 May 18
@Shavkat believer in God, a supreme deity, being
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
24 May 18
I'm sure you're normal. Don't care what they say. Just listen to your heart.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
24 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim Some people do things for their own benefit. Some people do things out of their conscience.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
I am not affected by their views. I posted it as a discussion topic to see what people think of it.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
24 May 18
Let the people talk. You don't harm anyone with your attitude, then everything is ok.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
It is interesting what is the reason why they are freaked out by me
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
24 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim Well, that's not so surprising. People are conservative in their daily habits. It's a human trait to think that what you do is right. Everyone who does things differently endangers the known order so-to-speak. You should think about some standard answers you can use every time the topic comes up. Don't start discussions and never try to convince someone that your way is better. This is especially advisable for vegetarians/vegans. I don't eat meat. My husband comes from a meat-eating family in Sardinia (Italy). I've often been asked why I don't eat meat by his relatives. Even if the question is asked in a friendly way, there's a bit of aggression in it. At least this is what I feel. People feel challenged or provoked as if you attack and criticise them and they have to defend themselves. I always say, "I don't like the taste." And don't let myself be drawn into discussions. This works quite well. As to buying cheaper material: this is a bit more difficult. You will be seen as a freak whatever you say. You will have to live with this. You can say, "You do what you think is right and I do what I think is right." If someone challenges you and wants to have an argument about this, you can say, "Let's not discuss this. It will lead nowhere. I know that I can't convince you, and you can't convince me. It will only lead to arguments. So let's just leave it."
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
@MALUSE there is just a small thing that I don’t understand from everything you said “don’t start discussions and never try to convince anyone that your way is better”. ???????
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 May 18
I would probably look at you funny too because I am a foodie.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
26 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim ....Yes.
• Bucharest, Romania
25 May 18
Haha. You are being honest though
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@LeaPea2417 (36451)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 May 18
I don't find you odd for being a Vegan.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 May 18
It is really hard to please others and by that it means being honest with yourself and they dont.
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• Bucharest, Romania
24 May 18
I am not trying to please anyone.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim Yes. Doing the right things will never be accepted by many and I am glad you are an upright and honest person, Christian.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 May 18
Just don't mind those kind of people, as long as you don't harm anyone, there's nothing wrong with being honest and being different from others.
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• Bucharest, Romania
29 May 18
Haha. I know that
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• Bucharest, Romania
29 May 18
@Jessabuma I do ignore them in the sense that I do not get sad over it.
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim hahaha!!! Then just ignore them..
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@Peach10 (1920)
29 May 18
Please don"t fret over it. Just think of yourself as special and they are not. coz they all do the same thing and they think the same way.
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• Bucharest, Romania
29 May 18
Don’t worry. I am not sad over it or anything.
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@Peach10 (1920)
29 May 18
@Cristi_Ichim Good for you