"You don't know what its like!"

@ElicBxn (63235)
United States
May 24, 2018 6:32pm CST
I've mentioned before that my wife is legally blind. However, many people don't realize that she is. Today she got an email from a customer that said that he hadn't set up his TTY. This is a program for deaf people to get phone calls into a text format. She had been trying to help him, but what he needed at this point was to talk to an agent, she was no longer able to help him since he had gotten his product back from the company she works for. He kept saying that he hadn't set up his TTY yet. Then he told her that she had no idea what its like to be handicapped. She didn't tell him that she was, although she did once tell a lady who was trying to get extra from the company because her son was legally blind. (That shot her right down.) Instead, she wrote him back and told him that he could use a text communication and gave him the information. Now, excuse me, but my mother had a friend who had lost nearly all her hearing and had to use the service that does it for the deaf. That friend had been using it for decades before her death 10 years ago. I think this guy hadn't set it up because he was trying to get extra stuff. "Poor handicapped me, you've got to do something extra for me." What do you think?
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@AmbiePam (85541)
• United States
25 May 18
Most of the handicapped people I know never let their impairment be used as a weapon. They want to be treated like everyone else, and resent pity.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
25 May 18
That former roommate, Donna, did try to use it and was always upset that it didn't work with us.
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
25 May 18
My granddaughter is fiercely competitive and independent. "Pity" is never in her vocabulary where her handicap is concern. "slyness" on the other hand is.
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• Preston, England
26 May 18
possible he was exploiting his situation - your wife did well to stay patient with him
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
28 May 18
he was trying to do so, but he tried pulling the "handicapped card" on the wrong person this time.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
29 May 18
@arthurchappell wife, not mum, she's 7 years younger than I am... lol
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• Preston, England
28 May 18
@ElicBxn good that your mum made a stand
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
24 May 18
Most of the handicap I know personally as friends managed to survive as a normal individual. Do not mention their disability or treat them directly. It will upset them
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
25 May 18
Its one thing to supply an arm to a blind person to get around an unfamiliar or uneven area, its quite another thing do everything for them.
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• Philippines
25 May 18
Something went wrong with my ear after abusing with cotton buds, i got hearing impaired on my other ear too.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
25 May 18
That's sad. I worked with a couple of deaf ladies, they were nice people.
@LadyDuck (458252)
• Switzerland
25 May 18
I would say the same as @AmbiePam. The handicapped people I know want to be treated like all the others, they do not want pity or special attention.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
25 May 18
I've met a few, that former roommate, I call her Dumb Donna, tried to use her blindness to get a pass. But she was just a b*tch and didn't deserve any kind of pass. She is just a lazy slug. She'd do things and have problems and she brought them on herself. Like the time she had a problem and wanted me to do something. I told her I couldn't help her. "But you do home health," she said. "Yeah, I'm a maid with a fancy name. And my client doesn't have one of those and even if she did, they wouldn't let me touch it."
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@LadyDuck (458252)
• Switzerland
26 May 18
@ElicBxn My mom was almost blind at the end of her life. She never asked for a help and she could still do everything by herself.
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
24 May 18
One of my granddaughters is hearing-impaired. Although she is just like any typical teenager, there are times when I wonder if she takes advantage of her handicap. But maybe it's because we spoil her. I don't think there is anything wrong for the guy to try to get "extra stuff" because even not handicapped people like you and me would also try to get the best deal possible.
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@AmbiePam (85541)
• United States
25 May 18
True. If people can get away with manipulating others they will until someone finally takes a stand. It seems to be human nature almost.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
25 May 18
As @AmbiePam says, people try to take advantage, but this guy was trying to get something from the wife and she wasn't the right person to do it. She was only in shipping and he was trying to get his product repaired.
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