The tests of love (Is your love real?)

June 4, 2018 4:37am CST
People are stuck between the thought of "Follow your heart" and "Heart is deceitful. Truly, our hearts can be so deceitful. We can easily fall for someone who are sweet to us, or show concern to us. We may also be going out with someone, talk with them 24 hours a day, complete with all the "Good morning" and "Good night". But how can we really know if what's between you and someone is REAL romantic love? Here are the tests of love that we can use to examine ourselves if we really are in love with someone: 1. Test of Knowledge - It is very important for us to really know the person we want to spend forever with. Do we really know them well? Do we know how they respond toward success and failures? Are they true to their selves? And most of all, do we accept them for who they really are? Some people gets "turned off" just because their partner showed an attitude or something that they don't like. Because of it, breakups happen.. but that isn't true love. True love is accepting people for who they really are, and bringing out the best in them. If we are not the ones who will believe that they can change, who else will? 2. Test of Time - There are instances that people need to wait for some time to be together with their partner. It may be because of studies, or any other reasons. For example, a girl needs to graduate a degree first before she's allowed to enter into a relationship. If the man cannot wait for the right time, he doesn't really love the girl. True love is patient. It is willing to wait, when the time is right, and when everything is right. Everything has its own time and season. 3. Test of Space - Some, or even most "Long Distance Relationships" or LDR end with painful breakups. They say that "love becomes cold" or "we don't feel the sparks anymore". I believe that true love cannot be broken by long distances. True love is by the heart and soul, and not by the location. To sum everything up, true love is a commitment. It is a decision. It is committing to really love people regardless of the time, space, or any new thing that we may know about them. If our "love" fades, it's not really love. It may be just an emotion. We will know if our love is true if it is not fading as years go by, instead, grows stronger because of the tests and circumstances it faced.
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@Jessabuma (33192)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Jun
ohh that's interesting! I thank you for sharing this helpful tips..
3 people like this
4 Jun
Youre welcome! :D
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@Jessabuma (33192)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Jun
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@mlgen1037 (29626)
• Manila, Philippines
4 Jun
I agree with you the love is always a decision. We always make a choice.
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5 Jun
Yes. We have the choice to love endlessly, to cheat, etc. Love is a commitment.
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@mlgen1037 (29626)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Jun
@Christinedefensor That is definitely true. Hope all people will remember that.
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5 Jun
@mlgen1037 Yes! So people will stop breaking hearts
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@rakski (22113)
• Philippines
4 Jun
you are right Love is a decision. It is also a risk. You may have the test of time, space and knowledge but there should be always adjustment for both of you.
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4 Jun
True! And by these tests, you can test how committed you are in loving the person. :)
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@rakski (22113)
• Philippines
4 Jun
@miketagz (7489)
• Philippines
4 Jun
That's good for the tips, surely will help on singles. :D
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5 Jun
It helped me too! haha
@josie_ (7828)
• Philippines
4 Jun
How can "romantic" love be real? The very nature of romance is the glamorization of the relationship. To exaggerate the partner's positive side and minimize if not totally ignore their bad side.
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@Shavkat (65268)
• Philippines
4 Jun
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about having real love. The most important is to love ourselves first and share this love with others.
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5 Jun
Yes. We cannot give what we don't have. :)
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@Shavkat (65268)
• Philippines
5 Jun
@Christinedefensor Indeed, my friend. It is not healthy if we keep on trying to give which is not possible.