Dinner out with a friend after serving their time

@lookatdesktop I agree. I also feel as if people who have been convicted of a crime and then shunned by family and friends after getting out are more likely to do something to cause them to go back in again. I'm not saying that "giving the benefit of the doubt" will stop every person from going back to jail, but giving a second chance is free.

@ScribbledAdNauseum I agree. Well said.

Yes, but putting aside differences and giving it a try, would put things into proper perspective in hindsight, after all was said and done.

That is the way I feel, the one on one would be better than risk having a wife angry at me and thus risk their married relationship. It would be a bit tricky though, and the outcome uncertain.

@NJChicaa , Yep. Family is what it is. If people can't see it that way, they are obviously not willing to change.

@lookatdesktop we deal with my sister in law who has been in and out of jail. It is what it is. She is family and you can’t escape that.

That is true. Very well said. I commend you on your comment.

That is a very good and intelligent bit of wisdom there. Thanks. Yep. People are different when they come out of lockup. Some are worse than when they entered but not all. Some might feel like they served their time and were more or less free of the sin or the crime of the act that once put them there in the first place.

@lookatdesktop well his time will be served but the crime is still remembered. I will share the crime as I am constantly been told why would you bother with him. He was married three small kids home. The wife at work, one of the kids he took in from a homeless friend. She was a neighbors daughter near his dads house. Well the story is the child who was not his was jumping on the bed, when he went to check she was on the floor. He says she must have fallen and hit her head on the dresser. They convicted him says he threw her. Some feel he wouldn’t have hurt her the rest of us don’t know. The child was Four years old. There is a lot more involved, but when he comes out some of the other girls family will be after him. His mother had to relocate after his dad passed because of retaliation. His mom has now passed. So when he comes out will have limited family. I get letters from him but don’t always answer.

I fully understand where you are coming from. It is a bit difficult for anyone to meet for the first time with a friend who has been behind bars for almost a decade and have some uncertainty and fears as to their mental state.

Okay, that is a good thing to do. This is a hopeful message to share.

I appreciate the fact that you are so open with your comment. It is commendable.