Catch 22!!!!!!!!!
By Danna B.
@db20747 (43427)
Washington, District Of Columbia
June 27, 2018 6:32pm CST
I hope this doesn't sound like another complaint, But i know that it is!!! I've been helpin' grams and pops 4 a few years now. I try 2 take care that i follow her instructions as closely as possible!!! But she refused everything!!! She still wanted to lift wheelchairs and heavy things at costcos like soda cases!!! I have to tussle with her and insist!!! Then she gets mad and kicks the cases of sodas!!! My friends say let her do what she wants!!! I'm not telling her what to do!!! I'm merely suggesting!!! So i just said Let me know when U need help!!! Now she makes comments that sound like I don't help her, like I just can't give U the money, I don't mind if u do a little something to earn it!!!! I can't believe it!!! This is running up my blood pressure, i cant go back and forth like this!!! ill just help when it's needed and leave it at that!!! I'm not offering like i used to!!! Is that a good way to handle things??!!!!!!!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Jun 18
i am not sure. i give my daughter what i can to help financially and like to receive physical help in return. but i do respect her enough not to talk mean to her and expect the same. but times she takes advantage and talks down to me. not knowing your whole situation i may not be the one to ask
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Jun 18
@db20747 you got that right. i tell daughter all the time communication is most important.
@db20747 (43427)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Jun 18
Family helping family can be easier said than done sometimes!!! Just because it's family doesn't mean it will go smoothly especially if U R used to each other!!! we want to help each other, some way we must communicate better!!!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
27 Jun 18
Now that's really a burden. But you can continue to help and only when she asks you to.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
27 Jun 18
What I always said was " let me know if you need any help, I am right over here."
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
27 Jun 18
Thats a tough situation. Grandparents are set in their ways and can be stubborn, especially if they feel like they are no longer in control of their life. Asking for and accepting help (to them) is a sign of frailty and they want to prove that they can "still do it" on their own. She doesn't seem to understand that you don't want her to injure herself.
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@db20747 (43427)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
28 Jun 18
You've got it to a tee!!! It's like sh'e trying 2 be super woman still and her daughter and me just try to explain that it's best to take it easy than over do it, although she is very strong!!! She still wants 2 prove she's got it!!! Her mind is very well!!!
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