Being bitter, is it better?

Philippines
July 4, 2018 9:47am CST
On our class today, my co-student told us her story on how she got 2 kids and never marry the father of the kids... she told us that their relationship don't just work because the man is a mama's boy... she has her reasons. Me, i am a single-mom by choice, married for 13 years and ended it (unofficially) beacause my husband is very irresponsible. There, we are both solo parents. Then, she started telling our younger co-students to never get marry or never believe a man, because a man will definitely show its true skin when you live together. I disagreed to her. There is still a true and lasting relationship. I told her to stop being bitter and there's no need for her to scare those young women. Maybe, relationships for us did not work but for others, there still a road to "forever". For us who failed on our first relationship, is being bitter better? How about you, do you think the same way as my co-student?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Jul 18
No. You're right. There are still good man out there, they're not the same.
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• Philippines
4 Jul 18
True, good men do exist like my father and my brother
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
5 Jul 18
@MrsPumpkins yes that's right
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jul 18
She could have said something good for the young ones like - choose who you want to be with for the rest of your life., or think twice, don't be hasty or choose your instinct. Other than that.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Jul 18
@MrsPumpkins Bitterness when it comes to a bad relationship comes over. I can't blame her for she must have hurt so much.
• Philippines
7 Jul 18
@JustBhem yeah, true.. but what i am against was when she told the young ones to never believe in happy marriage. And recently, i only found out the she came from a broken family. I was really saddened when i heard her confession
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• Philippines
4 Jul 18
Yes, i agree with you bhem. She could have just told those young ladies to be careful in choosing a life partner.
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@marguicha (216407)
• Chile
4 Jul 18
Each story is a different one and each experience is unique. She should not be telling that.
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
Yep. Like i said, happy ever after do exist, like for example, my parents, her parents, they are still together even if they are 65-70 yrs old. That's a happy ever after for me
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@LeaPea2417 (36588)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 Jul 18
There are some good men out there. My husband is a good man. We have been married 30 years. He is fun to be around and has always treated me well & with respect. So, do not give up hope. Good men can be found.
@LeaPea2417 (36588)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 Jul 18
@MrsPumpkins God does always provide at the right time in many different situations.
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
Thanks, but for know, I'm fully concentrating on being a solo parent . I enjoy having this freedom. I will wait for my happy ever after in God's perfect timing
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
i am grateful for the father of my son because he made me a complete woman. other than that, it was good riddance when i sent him out of our house.
@Icydoll (36717)
• India
4 Jul 18
I agree with your words.. maybe it works for others.. there is no need for her to scare others.
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
Yeah
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jul 18
We're all individuals, that woman shouldn't generalise. There are good men and bad ones, just as there are good and bad women. I've been happily married for 53 years.
@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
5 Jul 18
I've never been married, only engaged - and it didn't work out. At least I found out. I tend to agree with your co-student. I think I'm hexed when it comes to men. There is no happy-forever with a man for me. However I think it would be best to be wise who I say this to. Maybe I say this in front of someone who is happy with their boyfriend, or newly married, or going to get married. In those cases it would be rude, mean. And I do hope there is a happy forever for others.