What's The Deal With Holding Doors Open?

July 7, 2018 2:29am CST
What's the deal with people holding doors? As a legally blind and physically challenged human, I've learned that I'd better know how to take care of my own needs, because there's no guarantee that someone's going to be there 24-7, and what's more, why would I want someone to be? People think it's the nice thing to do, but when I am approaching that door, I'm looking for something to hold onto, so I don't trip on the threshold. When someone opens that door for me, they've not only removed that thing I was going to grab for support, but they've created a new obstacle for me to have to get around. Then when i tell them I'd rather handle it myself, they get offended, like "who wouldn't want a door held open for them?" Of course me being a "woman" makes them ask the question twice. LOL Prefering to open my own doors is not a crime!
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11 responses
• St. George, Bermuda
7 Jul
Maybe you need to walk around with a sign please do not open doors for me it may look silly to some people but I think it would be very effective in the long run.
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@boiboing (13148)
• Northampton, England
7 Jul
But equally, a person kindly opening a door for another isn't a crime either.
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@dya80dya (9227)
• Romania
7 Jul
They don't know.
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@hereandthere (34073)
• Philippines
7 Jul
people mean well, so maybe explain or specify it, like you need to feel where the door is?
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@RasmaSandra (22137)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Jul
In your case, I think it would be best just to speak up and say I prefer to open my own door. I would not want to think you could get hurt by having someone do it for you. I never really trust people to stand politely and keep doors open. So when someone opens a door and expects me to step through it I always grab a hold of the door and wait for that person to move on through. Usually, there is a shrug of the shoulders or a funny look but at least the door is in my hands and I know it won't be in my face.
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@xiaolisu (2455)
• China
18 Aug
it's always a hard work to understand from each other.
@pitsipeahie (2298)
7 Jul
Their intention is to help. Its an act of kindness. Now this people do not know that you prefer not to have the door opened for you, they thought they are helping you not knowing that for you, they are putting you in an uncomfortable position that its much easier for you to do it your own. So I guess, you just have to tell them. I think they wouldn't get offended if you just politely tell them your side. People can understand.
@BarBaraPrz (21677)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Jul
I hold doors open because I wouldn't like someone letting the door close in MY face, so why should I do that to another? But in your case, people don't know that you need to hold the door so you won't stumble on the threshold. Just tell them.
@Jessabuma (33101)
• Baguio, Philippines
7 Jul
Yes, that's right, I agree with you it's not a crime to open your own door.
@Fliafaith (721)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Jul
as a woman, we usually love and feels god when a door is opened for us, but its not good to always getting used to it, we have to also open the door for us plus not every man loves doing that...hahhah.
• India
7 Jul
Might be it's their thought..