Am I focusing too much

New Delhi, India
July 9, 2018 10:38pm CST
Yesterday one of my relatives told me that I'm a little too much involved in my son. Whole day I'm running after him. I should fetch some time for myself as well as others. I was stunned to gear this.. Since 4 years my son has become my priority. I spend my whole day after him. I love to cater yo his needs. From food , studies to extracurricular activities I like to take care of everything by myself. Am I doing anything wrong in this?
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@sharon6345 (141514)
• United States
10 Jul
You are his mother in the end of it all. a 4 year old needs mothering but not smothering.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Thanks for the insight. I knew I was not doing anything wrong.
@sharon6345 (141514)
• United States
10 Jul
@amitkokiladitya No your just loving your child. I think that was your point in having him. as long as you don't stop his independence your doing great.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
@sharon6345 I will take care of my limits.
• United States
10 Jul
I don't have children, but seeing my sister (older / my role model) she tries to spend as much time as she can with her children especially since she works full time. On weekends, it's all about the kids and spending time with them, learning, going out as a family, etc. As long as you're not babying your child like carrying him every second, babying him every step of the way then I don't see anything wrong with being with him the entire time.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Thank you for making me aware of this. I know I'm not doing anything wrong
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• United States
10 Jul
@amitkokiladitya But at the same time, I think your relatives want to make sure you are having enough time for yourself. Like, relaxing and not to over stress too. Maybe when your child goes down for bed - you can get some "me time". :) Maybe a face mask and relax in the tub for a little or do something nice for you.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
@infatuatedbby I try my best to destress myself. But these are the years when he needs me . Once he grows up he will learn to manage things on its own.
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@amnabas (10311)
• Karachi, Pakistan
10 Jul
No you are perfectly performing your duty but do not forget your self while talking care of him.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Yes. I will keep this in mind as well
@wolfgirl569 (11714)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Jul
He also needs to learn to take care of himself as he grows. They might think you are doing too much of what he can do for himself. And yes you need to take care of you to be able to take care of him. Some me time is always good for the emotions and the body.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
I will try my best to maintain a balance
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@Jessabuma (33168)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Jul
You're not doing anything wrong my friend, he is only 4 years old , still young..
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Yeah..that is what I was thinking. Thank you
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@Jessabuma (33168)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Jul
@amitkokiladitya you're welcome my friend! Have a great day!
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
@Jessabuma you too. How are you now?
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@Icydoll (25777)
• India
10 Jul
I don't think it is wrong..it is the right time for a kid to get the most care..just give it and spend time with them...and make sometime for yourself too
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• New Delhi, India
11 Jul
I will try my best to maintain a balance
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@Icydoll (25777)
• India
11 Jul
@amitkokiladitya that's good dear
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• New Delhi, India
11 Jul
@Icydoll hi. How are you
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@hereandthere (32980)
• Philippines
10 Jul
what do your relatives mean by "time for yourself and others"? to whom can you leave him if you have some "me" time? are there things your son is able to do by himself already?
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
He is 4 years old. I think he needs me a lot
• Philippines
10 Jul
@amitkokiladitya are there things he can already do by himself?
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
@hereandthere he can...but still it is unsafe it I leave things on him alone
@aureliah (19439)
• Kenya
10 Jul
I can say that this is me. I get too involved with my son to a point I always know where he is as long as he is not in school
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Me too. It is just the 5 hours that I'm away from him.
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@aureliah (19439)
• Kenya
16 Jul
@birjudanak (7293)
• India
10 Jul
there is nothing wrong in it because a mother who only understands children than any others, in this age need to take care of a child and it's a good thing nothing wrong in it. you are not involved too much but you have care for him therefor you are behind him that nothing wrong will happen or he has not to face any problem therefor you are behind him and there is nothing wrong in it as my opinion.
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jul
Thank you for the valuable opinion. I will always keep it in my mind
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