Am I focusing too much
@amitkokiladitya (171936)
Agra, India
July 9, 2018 10:38pm CST
Yesterday one of my relatives told me that I'm a little too much involved in my son. Whole day I'm running after him. I should fetch some time for myself as well as others. I was stunned to gear this..
Since 4 years my son has become my priority. I spend my whole day after him. I love to cater yo his needs. From food , studies to extracurricular activities I like to take care of everything by myself.
Am I doing anything wrong in this?
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
10 Jul 18
I don't have children, but seeing my sister (older / my role model) she tries to spend as much time as she can with her children especially since she works full time.
On weekends, it's all about the kids and spending time with them, learning, going out as a family, etc. As long as you're not babying your child like carrying him every second, babying him every step of the way then I don't see anything wrong with being with him the entire time.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
10 Jul 18
@amitkokiladitya But at the same time, I think your relatives want to make sure you are having enough time for yourself. Like, relaxing and not to over stress too. Maybe when your child goes down for bed - you can get some "me time". :) Maybe a face mask and relax in the tub for a little or do something nice for you.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
Thank you for making me aware of this. I know I'm not doing anything wrong
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
@infatuatedbby I try my best to destress myself. But these are the years when he needs me . Once he grows up he will learn to manage things on its own.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
what do your relatives mean by "time for yourself and others"?
to whom can you leave him if you have some "me" time?
are there things your son is able to do by himself already?
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
@amitkokiladitya are there things he can already do by himself?
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
@hereandthere he can...but still it is unsafe it I leave things on him alone
@wolfgirl569 (95225)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Jul 18
He also needs to learn to take care of himself as he grows. They might think you are doing too much of what he can do for himself. And yes you need to take care of you to be able to take care of him. Some me time is always good for the emotions and the body.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
I will try my best to maintain a balance
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
11 Jul 18
I will try my best to maintain a balance
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Jul 18
You're not doing anything wrong my friend, he is only 4 years old , still young..
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
Yeah..that is what I was thinking. Thank you
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
@Jessabuma you too. How are you now?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Jul 18
@amitkokiladitya you're welcome my friend! Have a great day!
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@birjudanak (14319)
• India
10 Jul 18
there is nothing wrong in it because a mother who only understands children than any others, in this age need to take care of a child and it's a good thing nothing wrong in it. you are not involved too much but you have care for him therefor you are behind him that nothing wrong will happen or he has not to face any problem therefor you are behind him and there is nothing wrong in it as my opinion.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
Thank you for the valuable opinion. I will always keep it in my mind
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Jul 18
Me too. It is just the 5 hours that I'm away from him.
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