I think she hates me ...
By august
@august18 (3907)
Tunisia
July 11, 2018 1:27pm CST
A friend of mine recently proposed to me. The problem is that not only I don't love him back but also one of my best friend is totally and deeply in love with him. What made things even worse is that he asked her for some advice before confessing to me. 
I called her the day before yesterday to arrange a meeting but she didn't pick up. Yesterday she returned my call. When she heard my voice over the phone she said she dialed the wrong number .
I don't really know what to do. This guy has been of a great help for her after she got divorced. I know how much pain she must be going through but I can't make it stop.
I called her the day before yesterday to arrange a meeting but she didn't pick up. Yesterday she returned my call. When she heard my voice over the phone she said she dialed the wrong number .
I don't really know what to do. This guy has been of a great help for her after she got divorced. I know how much pain she must be going through but I can't make it stop.9 people like this
11 responses
@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
11 Jul 18
did you say yes? if not, then your friend shouldn't be mad at you.
sorry you're going through this.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
11 Jul 18
@august18 its good you didn't, then. as maybe after time you can talk to her and she'll realize that you didn't say yes, and things will be good
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@august18 (3907)
• Tunisia
11 Jul 18
@Courtlynn But that doesn't change the fact that he is not in love with her.
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@Freelanzer (10744)
• Canada
12 Jul 18
Well that must put a strain on your friendship. At least now she knows he doesn't love her and hopefully she moves on with her life.
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@Freelanzer (10744)
• Canada
12 Jul 18
@august18 Its not easy for anyone but first you have to want to and second work towards that goal. On the other hand there are some who rather hang on until the end of days even though there is nothing in it for them.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
11 Jul 18
nice that he likes you enough to propose but sad that he has failed to realize your friend loves him - hope it gets sorted out alright
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
12 Jul 18
@august18 good luck - hope he learns the truth soon
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
11 Jul 18
Her feelings for him are not your responsibility. If he doesn't know how she feels about him she should clear the air for herself and tell him. It is not your problem to deal with.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
11 Jul 18
@august18 He needs to tell her that even if he knows it will hurt her. She has to let this go so she can move forward. I know what it is like to hold on to a fantasy that was never meant to be. 20 years of my life wasted on it. 
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@AmbiePam (85661)
• United States
11 Jul 18
Nothing about this is your fault. It may be too painful for her to be close right now, but she should be woman enough to explain her feelings to you. I would say give her some time to work through her feelings, but after a little bit reach out to her again. Because although she's jealous, she's probably also embarrassed. She must be asking herself what you have that she doesn't.
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@yukimori (10144)
• United States
11 Jul 18
That's a tough thing to deal with. She probably needs a bit of time and space to process that the guy doesn't feel that way, and reminders of what just happened are probably going to be rough for her for a while. I'd probably just give her some space right now and just make sure that she knows that you're available if and when she wants to meet with you. It's definitely not your fault that things went that way, but that doesn't make it less hurtful for her.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
12 Jul 18
oh, this is a case of "he loves you, but she loves him and i don't love you"? wow, that is definitely a triangular love. why not say to him that you don't love him and somebody instead loves him?
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