Know it all.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
July 15, 2018 8:38am CST
I'm not smart and I'm not even the brightest.
And I know for sure I'm not perfect.
I ask if there are things that confuse me and I'm not trying to be smart.
Whatever my understanding is, I stand for it.
But there are people who will stand out because they know everything or I call them "Know it all".
They will correct you whether it's your grammar, your spelling or even they will try to make an explanation about the things that confuses you and makes you feel stupid. Also, there are people who explained it in a nice way.
Also if you'd like to tell your opinion about someone's conversation at least be sensitive, just like talking to someone in a real situation, then you come between their conversation, it's rude, right? Even if you know the explanation why not write it as a response to the discussion rather than come between their interaction. We could have a good interaction. Or at least say something like this - May I add some explanation if it's okay, or Hi, just want to add something. Rather than insert your explanation when you are not the one who is talking in a thread.
I know I'm being so sensitive. Maybe it has something to do with the weather or the medicines I'm taking. I just want to have a better interaction here. I just notice some people who like to meddle and tell they Know it all.
Do you like to interfere in someone's conversation without asking permission, whether it's written or in a real situation?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Jul 18
I know there is nothing wrong about sharing your opinion in someone's conversation.
I am just too sensitive at this moment.
And don't be sorry. I just want to share my thoughts on this and I am not talking about you.
You've been very nice to me.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
15 Jul 18
Good morning hija. Oh, now you are having a thought about this "butting in" activities of some, which I have made discussions about in the past. Yes, and sometimes I get irked too. Since @Jesus's butting in activities before, I have been on the lookout for some who just inject their comments and responses between 2 users communicating with each other in your own discussion, that when you answer to one, the other corrects you and says," I am talking with _ _ _".
It is awkward, right? 
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
@JustBhem unfortunately hija there are many who have that attitude. Know it all.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
Now I know the feeling.
It happens to me every time and with the same people.
I mean, I know there is nothing wrong with that but what happens is, that someone will overtake the conversation you have with someone. And then will correct you for what you don't understand or they will make you stupid to the one you have a conversation first.
If they like to say something about the conversation why not making it a response instead rather butt in the conversation, for what? To look smart and bright?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Jul 18
Hi Bhem! Are you talking about me? I remember meddling. But yes, there are lots of people who does meddle without even asking for permission just to butt in. 
But yes, there are lots of people who does meddle without even asking for permission just to butt in. 1 person likes this
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Jul 18
No. I'm not talking in a particular person here.
It just so happen it here in our place.
I think it's okay as long as your name was mentioned, or at least ask permission.
But if you butt in and talks as if you know it all is something I cannot take,
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Jul 18
@mlgen1037
That is if you are a good researcher, they can pass for being a smart a****.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Jul 18
@JustBhem I guess some people werent born with manners. Some butt in without any sense at all haha
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Jul 18
no i feel the same but try and just go with the flow. sometimes its not worth letting it bother you. what meds are you taking dear? i take a ton of things for breathing and my arthritis and blood pressure etc.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jul 18
@JustBhem wow but still not as much as me. though you seem quite young for even that much. i am 70 yrs.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
@bunnybon7
I'm into Dialysis for 5 years, that's why I have those medicines.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
15 Jul 18
Some time ago my husband, my mother-in-law and I were having dinner in a restaurant and a man from the neighbor table constantly interfered in our conversation. He shared his opinion about the topic we were talking about, and I didn't Iike it at all.
On myLot I think it is a little different. In most cases it doesn't bother me if other people join the conversation without permission. It is usually someone I already know (online) and I think it is different from the situation in the restaurant I described in the beginning. Of course it can get too much like the member who used to do it over and over in everyone's discussions.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Jul 18
@JustBhem I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes I have a conversation with someone, a third person joins the conversation and we all have a conversation together, that is fine. The situation you describe is different. I don't think it is right to overtake the conversation and talk to one person and ignore the other person. If I am in conversation with two other people I talk to both of them, not just one of them.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
@Porcospino
But what happens that person who butts in overtake the conversation. Until they change the topic.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
You have a point.
What makes me irk about this is, some people will make you look stupid.
Though they didn't mean it because of the overwhelming feeling they have about the conversation, still it is not right to overtake the conversation you have in the first place. It will end up you get out of the picture because that person already talking to the person you talk first, do you think it's right?
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
16 Jul 18
Interfering in conversations in my opinion is not so nice, it's like saying, I know I'm not invited to the discussion, but, I'm talking with you anyway, like it or not, I don't care.
There are better ways to join a discussion, I don't know exactly how, it depends on the situation.
I sometimes interfere asking if I can add something.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
17 Jul 18
@JustBhem you make real life sound like mylot, in mylot, I want as many users as possible to interfer. In real life, most of the time, conversations are not open for the public like discussions in mylot..
Maybe we can make it more clear if we want others to join our conversation even if they are total strangers: we can talk louder, we can ask strangers for their opinions, we can invite them before they decide to join. After all, talking with a friend in public, even if done privately, is like eating a snack in public, it makes people wonder what we talk about as much as it makes them want to eat the snack...
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Jul 18
@stringer321
They can add something about the conversation two people are having, as long as he/she was invited to the conversation. But intervenes and add something like you are not invited and it's rudeness for me a show-off.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
Exactly my point.
Like if you have something to add about the conversation since it's your discussion, why not making it a response so that you and the author can talk about it, rather than interfere in someone's conversation.
I know I am being sensitive about it, but hey' it's my opinion and we should both respect it, right?
I've been getting a lot of these and I really find it rude for someone's who likes to show off their things as if they really know everything. And make you look like stupid because you didn't get what they are trying to imply.
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
15 Jul 18
No one knows it all, though many think they do. Its okay to get confused. But certainly not okay to be rude.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
@Courtlynn
Sorry, Courtney, I mistype it. I was so sleepy last night. I edited it already.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Jul 18
I sometimes interfere in someone's conversation without asking permission. But I agree, it's good to ask permission first.
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@brokekid0212 (1187)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
Sometimes, I interfere for the better good. If I see people who can't understand a thing or two, I help
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
I wouldn't mind others interfering or injecting comments and opinions in another comment in my post. It is one's choice if they want to.
Think of it this way:
If they inject comments on another comments, it means the topic is interesting to them. Mire, comments means more interaction.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
And what if they have overtaken the conversation and you got left behind?
Like we already have a good interaction then someone intervenes because they also have something to say, my point is, why not make it as a response to the discussion and you both can talk from there?
@AgoriphobicPirate (303)
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15 Jul 18
You make a great point. I would like to point out a perspective that may not be overly cheerful, but I do feel applies. Unfortunately, this is the internet. Everywhere you go there will be someone who has something negative or hurtful to say. Personally, I prefer honesty even if it’s not what I’m looking to hear, so that I know the responses are real. Anything hard to hear though should be said in such a way of constructive criticism. If I can offer one piece of advice on the topic, it’s to remember that you’ll never find a topic that everyone agrees on, and if someone is being mean just for the heck of it then they are obviously not a very happy person and it sucks to be them. 
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 18
I know that we cannot please everyone here no matter what kindness or good you want to emphasize here. My point is, do not intervene or butt in someone's conversation if you know something that will add to the conversation. I know I am being sensitive about this, but I'm tired of being silent about this.
I am okay with criticism, I know I will learn a lot from this. But don't make me look stupid.
