morals/empathy/kindness

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I've always had a strong sense of right and wrong. I've lived by my morals and the idea of consequences if I mess up. I know morals seem old school to a lot of people but it's how I was brought up. I can't do anything wrong without a huge pang of guilt. Growing up I had a very strong conscience. If I messed up I felt guilty for long periods of time even after apologizing. As an adult, I realize that more and more people are missing the same standards I live by. I mean there are decent people out there and I think we all have our own idea of what morals are and how we choose to live by them by I live by the basics of being honest and kind. I believe you get back what you give to the world. I believe in karma we all pay for our mistakes now or after we have died. I don't believe in reincarnation but Karma I do believe in. I don't get how people can tell huge lies and hurt those around them. I don't understand why people put such emphasis on things that don't even matter in the end. I have found myself guilty of that at times because it seems as humans we are susceptible to putting effort in things that don't really matter. We care more about things than people a lot of the time or so it seems. I find myself not always liking people and getting irritated. I don't hate people I joke sometimes but I am still the kind of person that tries to help others. I'm loyal to those that I call my friends and have found that that's not always the case on their end. I've been betrayed and talked about by "friends" in the past. I've cut off friendships because they were toxic. Good friends don't put you down and make you feel horrible all the time. It's possible to be friends with someone who has different beliefs and values than you but you also have to know that their opinions matter even if you don't agree with them. I mean I couldn't be friends with people who are horrible people who can do horrible things and not even feel remorse. I understand we make mistakes but if you can continuously hurt people and keep doing it and don't seem to even care then that's a person I couldn't be friends with. I have a small group of friends but they are some of the best people I know. My mom always liked my friend group because she always said that I only associated myself with decent people who had a decent moral code even if they didn't necessarily have all of the same beliefs that I did. I mean we weren't out looting or doing drugs. We were all sort of nerdy and as far from popular as we could get but we accepted people of all walks of life so long as they were nice and weren't out breaking the law. My brother, on the other hand, didn't always associate with the best people. He would befriend kids that did a lot of stupid things. He managed to keep a lot of them and some of them turned out to be decent people later but growing up they really were bad influences. They would all skip school and drink and smoke and my brother ended up not graduating. You should always pick your friends wisely. It's something I plan on teaching my son. You should never forget where you came from or the morals you were taught along the way. If only everyone could put their differences aside and actually try to be good to one another regardless of race and religion I feel like we would be so much better off. You have every right to your religion I'm a Christian but the way I live up to it is by believing that it isn't my place to judge others. I don't swear, I don't do drugs, I do my best to live my life on the straight and narrow. A lot of Christians feel like they can do whatever they want as long as they ask God for forgiveness at the end of the day and that's not how it works. They use it as an excuse for bigotry. That's not at all what it's about and these are the "Christians" that have left the wrong impression about what it's about. That being said I don't expect everyone to agree with me I do me and let them do them. I think we are letting religion divide us and it shouldn't be that way. You can be friends with someone who believes something different than you. They have every right to their own beliefs. Of course, I think I'm right but they also think they're right but our beliefs do not have to overshadow our kindness towards others and blind us to the good deeds of others. We should all work hand in hand to help each other. It shouldn't be this constant struggle tearing us apart. I see so much hatred and so few morals anymore. I did an essay at one point asking if it was our obligation to help poor countries and I hate the word obligation because that means we HAVE to do something but really we should WANT to do something. Empathy is something we are so severely lacking anymore. "Not our country not our problem" "We need to help our country first" don't get me wrong sometimes I feel the same way with helping our country first but the issue with that is we don't. The same people quoting it are the very people who are against helping people. They complain that we give too much to the poor when in reality we give too much to the rich. They don't want to help others they just use it as an excuse. Sure we should help people in our own country but it would sound better if the people saying it actually meant it, most don't. People are so hateful. The name calling, the bickering. Do I like Trump? No. Do I agree with the occasional thing he says? Yes but rarely but honestly I wouldn't have liked any political figure they put in there apart from maybe John McCain. I feel people are too far left or right when they really should start seeing others points of views. I am very middle ground. I have always seen things from both sides. It's a blessing and a curse. I try to understand everyone. What I don't get is those that are disowning friends because of their beliefs. In reality we should just accept our differences. At the end of the day it's about being kind to one another and helping each other. It shouldn't be about race, religion, or political background. It should be about seeing a problem and helping where you can. Seeing a person hungry and giving them food and not worrying about giving handouts. It should be about seeing a person hurt and giving them words of comfort. We are all human and we all have feelings (well except a few of those that have a psychological problem making them void of them) and we should all treat each other respectfully. You don't have to like everyone but a little kindness can go a long way.