Are our parents really fair to us?
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@ZedSmart (19753)
Philippines
August 20, 2018 4:33am CST
From the parent’s perspective, they’re treating their children fairly and equally. I am not sure if this is true to everyone. Or maybe, only the children think otherwise. With certain number of children in the house plus their different attitude they’re maybe this situation of favoritism. Lucky those only child because all the attentions are with him.
I can’t say that there’s this favoritism or unfairness thing in the house before. That may be because of our wide age gap.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
20 Aug 18
some only children feel lonely. some never did. some who grew up with only 1 or 2 siblings prefer to have more or the same, depending on their experience with their own siblings/parents. some even opt to be child-free. those who grew up with many siblings tend to have less of their own. those are my observations on previous discussions here (and in other sites) about this topic.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
20 Aug 18
@ZedSmart exactly, or when there's a big gap in your age. but then it also happens in families with more than 1 child. some assume the only girl should care for the elderly parents. some assume those who are unmarried/separated/widowed should care for the parents. some purposely live far away and just send money when they feel like it.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
20 Aug 18
@hereandthere I should agree more on this. It is very true that those children who have already a family on their own leave the responsibility to the unmarried sibling. I partially agree to the taking care of but not totally on the financial matter. If the unmarried sibling has work or income, in this case the other sibling should still support financially to their parents even for a little when necessary. If the elderly have the resources, it would not be a problem, if not otherwise they have their fair share of responsibility. The fact that they can't spare their time, they must at least give something and not just rely to unmarried sibling. It might be unfair. Yes, it maybe true that it does not matter much because in the first place, he doesn't have the family of his own to spend with. What's the division of labor for?
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@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
20 Aug 18
@ZedSmart ~Welcome to MyLot. This reminds me of the old saying, "Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". Maybe the one child just feels that their sibling is getting more attention.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Aug 18
I can't say there was unfairness in how our parents raised us but I know they had their favourites. My mother's favortie were the two eldest siblings. The first son and the first daughter in the family. Dad's favorite were the second sister and the youngest which is me.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
20 Aug 18
I think parents do their best for their kids.
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@moichan (666)
• Philippines
21 Aug 18
I think it's a disadvantage for the older kids. I have a friend. There are 4 kids at their house. I see their parents leave home and take out the younger ones. I kept my friend company while she was cleaning the house. She said she tried going on a hunger strike once and her parents didn't even notice since she was always eating their leaftovers. It was very sad
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
21 Aug 18
Parents are humans too with their preferences. They do show favouritism without looking at the consequences.
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