Spending thousands to attend a wedding is something I don't want to do

@lovebuglena (43080)
Staten Island, New York
September 4, 2018 11:27am CST
Hubby and I were invited to a friend's wedding, which will be a destination wedding in the Caribbean. If we go there we have to lash out thousands of dollars, not counting any gift we give because we have to pay for the resort and for the plane tickets there and back. I am against going because I do not think it's smart to spend so much money to attend a wedding. And I don't want to make a vacation out of it because if I were to go on a vacation I wouldn't go to a beach vacation. And if I decided I did want a beach vacation I would go to a different place. Even if hubby goes alone, which I do not want, it will still be thousands. That's money that can be used toward our honeymoon vacation to Paris, which we've yet to take since getting married back in 2016. Based on our last conversation it seems like if I don't go hubby will go without me. I would be upset if he does this. But it's not like I can actually prevent him from going if he does decide to go by himself after all. Would you go to a destination wedding if you had to spend thousands to go there?
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@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
5 Sep 18
definitely no too. It is quite a waste of money indeed. I'd rather spend it on somewhere i do want to go
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@vhanjgie (18)
5 Sep 18
i never experienced that spending thousands just to attend a wedding mostly if my relatives or friends wedding venue is far they shouldered the ticket and place lol thats how generous my friends lol but if not i wouldnt attend also id rather use my savibgs to my own vacation like urs be practical :) and if i were the couple who will get married il shoulder my guest tickets and hotel tbatsour tradition here in the Philippines :)
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
5 Sep 18
When we went to another wedding that was actually in the US the hotel offered a discount for the wedding guests. There isn't even a discount at this resort. And because it's president's week flights are more expensive.
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
4 Sep 18
If your hubby is intent on going it must be HIS friend that's getting married. I think if a couple wants a destination wedding, they can elope to the destination they want and their friends can have a reception for them when they return. I wouldn't spend money out of my own pocket to attend a wedding half way around the world.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
5 Sep 18
It is his friend. Seems all the other friends are going and have already booked. But it's insane to spend that much and I am against it. For two people it will probably be around four grand.
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