Hate doing and other things to annoy me today
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
United States
September 19, 2018 2:15pm CST
I grabbed the bowl from the stove, and the glass from the counter. I pushed the crumbs from cornbread away from the burners on the stove and into my palm. I threw away used napkins and a box that needed to be put to the recycles.
I then turned my attention to the dishwasher. I unloaded the top rack, putting cups and bowls back in their place. I put the silverware back in it's drawer, and the plates back in their cupboard. Then it was time to put the dishes from the sink into the dishwasher.
I sigh because I know I'll need to repeat the process again tonight. I then go towards the trash and heave a heavier sigh. This isn't my job, but it isn't an easy task to get him to do anything "right this second."
I put on my flip flops, pull the trash from the bin and secure it. I walk out the door, around the house to the outside bins and lob it in. Back inside, I wash my hands then look at the dryer.
He still hasn't folded the towels. By this point I walk out of the kitchen and back to my room where I go back to reading.
I do it all. The dishes, the cleaning of the bathroom, I even load the washer with clothes and put them to dry. All I ask him to do is take out the trash and fold the laundry.
It takes him, on average, five days to get the towels folded.
"I need to do my own laundry." means nothing to him.
I sigh, stand back up and make my way back into the kitchen. I guess it's just another thing to add to my annoyances of today.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58140)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Sep 18
Yeah. I feel your pain. I do all of ours. Or other half will if I don't feel like it. But the roommate won't do anything.take trash, do dishes or clean. I'm surprised he did his laundry yesterday.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 Sep 18
I live with two relatives, I think I've told you that before. One is elderly and well, he's from the generation where the women do the cleaning. He makes his mess and I clean up after him, I'm used to it, and I don't resent him for it.
It's the other relative who does nothing without being told. Even the trash, he has to be told to do it. He's older than I am. He's also been diagnosed with a mentally debilitating disease, but it's not something that messes with his cognizance.
It's just annoying because he doesn't care.
@thislittlepennyearns (58140)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Sep 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum We have talked about this in the past. And I cant really say that I would be mad at the first one either. If that's how he was raised, that's what he knows. I can say that I would probably be a little annoyed or perturbed at it, even though that's not how he was raised.
The other one, I have that problem with the roommate. Other half does everything I ask, even usually goes above and beyond what I ask unless he isn't feeling good. But the roommate is a total waste of space most of the time. He doesn't do dishes, doesn't know how to clean up after himself, has only cleaned the toilet once since he moved here. I was actually shocked he did his laundry all by himself the other day. I told him I wasn't his mom and I wasn't cleaning up after him anymore. It go ridiculous. All he knows how to do is drink. And I think that's killed any functioning brain cells he had.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
22 Sep 18
@thislittlepennyearns shift, yeah, your rommie has some issues. He is going to be worthless as long as he keeps holding onto bottles like they are pacifiers. Atleast you won't have to deal with him for too much longer.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
This is a relative of mine, and he has emotional problems... It's not exactly emotional but I don't like the word mental. I wouldn't so much mind that the trash is all he does, it's just a matter that I always have to tell him to do it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
21 Sep 18
@LadyDuck He's depressed, he is paranoid, but he's not stupid.
He understands that he needs to do the things, but he isn't aware of his surroundings sometimes because of how much he sleeps. You have to remind him "don't forget the clothes in the dryer" and sometimes he'll say "Oh, I didn't know you asked." Why? Because you can be talking to him and think he's awake but he's actually asleep. He's very good about being half awake / half asleep and carrying on a conversation.
Again, he's depressed.. A LOT. So he has no motivation, and yes, I get depression, I've had it before and I understand it well. It doesn't make me any less frustrated when having to insist he do his share.
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@LadyDuck (458233)
• Switzerland
21 Sep 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum If he has emotional problems he cannot understand that he should do things without you having to ask.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep 18
Sometimes living with others just isn't worth it. I would find other things for him to do I think.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum ......I know how that is.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
It wouldn't much matter. I just need a place to rant sometimes, is all.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@celticeagle It's good to have the ability to do just that.
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@sweetashoney (3594)
• United States
19 Sep 18
Oh man, I know where your coming from, I had a man that lived with me for years. I would cook supper, tell him he needed to wash the dishes, his reply always was ok, I'll do it in a minute! The trouble was, the minute never came, he would sit there until I started washing the dishes, then he'd want to get up to help. By that point I would tell him I got it, go sit back down! This is how he was with anything, wither it was house work or yard work, unless you were up and working, he wasn't going to left a finger!
@sweetashoney (3594)
• United States
19 Sep 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum yea, your right that's how I felt, he was just lazy, that 's why I think it made me so mad! Thank goodness he doesn't live with me anymore!
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@sweetashoney Less stress for you, which is good!
I can't get away from this stress, since I am here to take care of the family.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 Sep 18
The problem I have is that the family member I refer to.. He sleeps all day. His medicine makes him do that.. His cognitive abilities are great, but not so great at the same time.
I find myself getting irritated at him because what comes as common sense to me doesn't come as common sense to him.
Yeah, that fella that lived with you, he seemed just pure lazy.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 Sep 18
This isn't my offspring .This is a man older than I am. No, he's not a spouse either.
He's a pain in my rear though.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@akalinus This is very true.
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@akalinus (40440)
• United States
19 Sep 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum Many people that you love are a major pain in the rear.
@sallypup (57890)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Sep 18
You sound like me when I am sick to here of cleaning cat pans.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Sep 18
Yes, I was very much aggrieved much of the day. I finally got over it, and just let it go.
It does no good, does it? To be agitated at things that won't change.
