I'm Back and Life Goes On
@BelleStarr (61047)
United States
September 24, 2018 7:49am CST
Hi everyone, thank you all so much for all your wishes, they helped a lot getting me through this difficult time. The funeral was on Friday and the service was beautiful, my dear friend Father Joe was the main celebrant and he knew my mother well so his sermon was very personal.
We spent some quality family time with my brothers, niece and nephews and cousins, friends and of course my grandchildren and children. Friday night three grandsons came over with my daughter and we did game night. Saturday we had dinner at my nephew's house with one of my brothers. (the other brother had already gone home).
This morning I had to contact the pension company to discontinue my mom's pension. Now I just have to wait for the checks to clear in my mom's checking account and then I can close it out and I think that will complete everything I need to do. After all the emotions clear it is time to do the things that need to be done. I have been my mom's POA for a very long time and now that part of my life is over. The nursing home called me to see if I wanted her wheelchair which I told them no, to donate it to someone who needs it.
Again thank you all for being great friends, it does warm my heart.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
Thank you so much, I am the type that needs to get things wrapped up so that I can relax.
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@DianneN (246849)
• United States
24 Sep 18
@BelleStarr I don't blame you. We are both that way - kindred spirits!
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
Yes, for my mental health I need to wrap everything up.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Sep 18
Glad it all went well for you. Take care.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Sep 18
Thank you, yes I am glad that we can now get back to normalcy.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
24 Sep 18
This is a process everyone on earth has to face at some point in their life. It is also an occasion for family to gather
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Sep 18
I was very glad to have my brothers with me, we are still very close.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
It will be short since I had to sell her home 6 years ago, I have only a small amount of money left and I will pay the last bills and then donate the remainder to the church, no inheritance.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
25 Sep 18
@BelleStarr We had to go through plenty of bureaucratic papers, my mom left a big apartment in the center of Milan and a bank account with her savings and investments.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
I do, I know she is no longer in pain and that she is in a much better place.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
I think it will be all wrapped up in just a couple of weeks, there isn't really an estate since we had to sell her house 6 years ago.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
25 Sep 18
I am glad your family and friends are there to help you through this heart breaking time, Iz. I wish you strength and comfort @BelleStar .
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Sep 18
Thank you Catherine, I know this will take a long time and in the end I will always miss my mother.
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@Marilynda1225 (79731)
• United States
24 Sep 18
Being surrounded by family and friends certainly helps during such tough times. I dont' think I'd have made it when my mom passed if I didn't have loving people to help
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
I had a couple of friends who really jumped in and helped out in so many ways, a good friend is a wonderful thing.
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@moffittjc (118442)
• Gainesville, Florida
26 Sep 18
Thanks for checking in and giving us an update. I've been keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, and I will continue to do so. Just know that we are here for you if you need us.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
26 Sep 18
Thanks Jeff it is much appreciated.
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@moffittjc (118442)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Sep 18
@BelleStarr And lunch is on me when we finally meet up!
@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
25 Sep 18
Hugs to you! Not life begins a new chapter.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Sep 18
Thank you, yes it is a rather strange feeling after 68 years of having my mother always close to now have her gone. I believe she is in a better place but the best place was near to me.
@Elizaby (6902)
• Pensacola, Florida
24 Sep 18
Glad to hear you are doing well as you work through all the stages of the grieving process after losing your Mother. Glad that you were there when she passed and that the timing of her going was not in the heart of winter when you are here in Florida.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
Yes I am very glad about that, it makes it easier for me to relax in Florida.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
25 Sep 18
So sorry still, but am so happy you had your loved ones to help you through. 
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
26 Sep 18
Thanks Courtney, it has been a tough couple of weeks and I will be glad to get back to normal.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
26 Sep 18
@BelleStarr don't rush it though. take the time you need to cope.
@Tampa_girl7 (48958)
• United States
21 Oct 18
I hope that you were able to smoothly get everything done.
@1creekgirl (40523)
• United States
24 Sep 18
I'm so sorry for this time of grief. There's always so much paper work that has to be done.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
We had preplanned a lot of the things so actually I should be able to wrap it up quite quickly, we sold her house six years ago and there is not much of anything left.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Sep 18
Thank you, yes the memories remain with us always and are certainly a comfort.
