Apologies when to accept or not?

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Practice forgiving is one of the good values that all people should learn especially when a person who committed mistake towards another person apologize and ask for the forgiveness. This is good if the person is really sincere. However I believe there are apologies that are not acceptable or tolerable all the time. Like you will ask for the apologies but then the next day you will have an intention to commit the same mistake again where in fact that is the issue or you even promise not to do that. This is always happening to the friendship and marriages that the apology becoming pattern then will commit the same mistake. Like a partner will cheat he will apologize to his wife then the wife will forgive because of her love to husband but then the husband will cheat again as if he is sincere to his apology to his wife since it is becoming his addiction to cheat, it is on his system that his wife will forgive him again and over until it is becoming pattern. There is always limitations for that. This is just a general example since I have read in some forums wherein the women are having that kind of dilemma which is common already. I have experienced same thing in friendship too I talked to her already not to do the same thing but then it was repeat not until I didn't talk to her and avoid that is the time that she did not commit the same mistake to me because she became so careful already. I have a classmate long time ago who is totally a bully that he keeps on teasing me up to the point that we were fighting all the time. In return I became so harsh that I even slapped him on his face. He keeps on saying sorry during that time and apologetic to me already but due to my hatred that I've already invested on him I keep on being snobbish and hating him to the point of being unforgiving. Even if he is already nice to me I keep on ignoring him. In fact he teases me by saying "I Love You" which I know he is just teasing me maybe he wants to see how will I react but for real I find it creepy, then there was a time that he keep on staring at me which I am irritated and find it creepy too. We were graduated that we are not in good terms to each other. That was way back 1996 we were 12 years old during that time. After 22 years wherein there is already a social media where we can interact to each other it happens that our class has group chat that we talk to each other again. When he came in I just ignore how he talks to the group to observe his behavior and how he talks to me, wondering if he forgotten what happened to us 2 decades ago but I can be civil as possible as long as he will not brought up the topic or how he teases me during that time. In my surprise he apologize again and intentionally he wants to settle the situation that happened between us though it was in a group chat that is why I sent him a message and I told him that it's been 22 years already so no problem for it. We talk and I responded him. Last Sunday it happens that we have class get together though he was not my classmate instead it was his cousin, I told his cousin everything that happened to us and he is far better. I sent the picture on group chat that we have a reunion then he asked me if it was his cousin. I told him yes and it happens that I teased him too that his cousin is far better than him and he is even smart which is already proven, at least he didn't fight with me. I think he was alarmed then he apologizes again I just told him that it was only a joke. I message him personally in which that is also the time I apologize with him too for being so harsh and unfair to the point that I hurt him personally. He admit it the he is the bully, I told him too that I missed to opportunity to know him more in which I believe he is comprehensive. As I can see it on his facebook I observe it that his simplicity has substance, he is humble enough, sweet to his parents, friendly and more so he is just practical. I just wish to know him more and can talk to him even though we cannot be friends at all. This is comparison to the house helper who apologizes with me with sarcasm and very sugar coating. I know it for a fact that it is not her intention to settle the situation but she all wants to justify her fault that insisting I should be the one to understand her. She is the one who is always in tantrums, childish actions, stomping and bullying me all the time because she knows that my parents hated me during that time due for being jobless and she is confident enough that my parents will even defend her if I fought back to her. My parents especially my dad was her backer. There was a time that my mother talk to her heart to heart about her brother that helpers should really treat him in a nice way. But she did the same horrible thing that she really bullied my uncle even if my mom told her that she should treat my uncle in a nice way. That is also the reason that I don't want to accept her apology because I find her so much hypocrite and pretending girl who has a poker personality. She asked my family to finance her studies because her relative did not continue to send her in school due to her attitude problem. She had communication with my father without our knowledge at all and shocked that she just came back that we thought she was already studying in the finance of her relative. When she became a teacher she was not supposed a house helper to our house and she is not supposed to be in our house instead she keeps on bullying us even my mother. She was terminated when my parents fought about her due to her attitude problem, hidden agenda, and tantrum like a child all the time.