He's back at it

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It took my brother two days to go back to his normal habits, I gave him a week clearly I gave him way too much credit. He's back to bumming money off of people and doing nothing. He is eating nonstop and he has gone out and came home drunk and we don't even know how since he doesn't have money. I can't say anything to my mom without her snapping. My brother gets away with things we never would get away with. When I didn't have money I never asked people to buy me stuff. I would sooner starve than ask someone for food. Maybe it's pride but I did what I had to do and I definitely didn't request things I didn't need. I figured if I'm staying with someone that was asking them enough. I wasn't about to eat all of their food too. I have never had the ability to stay somewhere and just make myself at home. I don't take things that don't belong to me. If I had my way my brother would still be in TN. My mom is never going to learn. My brother's daughter came over to visit the other day and my brother wasn't home yet. My niece hung out with us for a bit until her dad got home. He came in started crying all over her. He was happy to see her and hugged and kissed on her and I could tell she was uncomfortable. I was just watching it. I got up and walked out of the room. I couldn't tell if he was drunk or if it was because he's an emotional person which he is. I'm fairly certain he had a few drinks but couldn't be sure. My brother loves his daughter but clearly not enough to be a better person. He was telling her how happy he was to see her and how much he missed her but my thought was "you missed her so much you stole a car and left state?" How much can you miss your child when you were willing to leave in the first place? I mean it was clear he had no intention of coming back. My mom made me go with her to take my niece home because it was late and she didn't want my brother going. My brother was harassing my ex SIL for a while and had finally stopped she didn't want more problems to arise. When I walked out with my niece my niece told me how awkward she felt and I was like I was too and it wasn't me he was hugging on. I'm just over his presence. I want him to wake up and fix his issues but he never will when everyone around him continues to enable him. He knows we are not happy with him but doesn't particularly care. My husband and I have only been talking to him when we are forced to and we are polite but not overly friendly. I'm forced into this situation but that doesn't mean I have to bend over backward to meet his demands the way my mom does. He asked my husband for 20 dollars which irked me. We barely have enough money to eat with bills and him being here eating all of our food and he had the nerve to ask for money. I refuse to give him any money. He knows we have expenses and still has the nerve to ask for money knowing we are struggling. I help others out when and where I can but I won't help him when he refuses to help himself. He blows all of his money on tobacco and alcohol and has the nerve to ask others for money. I have enough to worry about financially. My son's birthday is next month and then there's Christmas and bills among other things. I am not wasting my money by helping an alcoholic buy booze. I'm just so annoyed he has the nerve to ask for things. My husband and I are two of the only people with enough sense to never give in to any of his demands. It's frustrating knowing he is going to keep going down this road and no matter what he does people will continue to "help" him. If I can get my own place I plan to remove myself from the equation entirely.