Childish problem with a neighbor.

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Hi My Lot, Maybe you guys can help me out on this. I have tried staying out of drama at this apartment building - I came out of a situation where I had a lot of drama where I lived. So for a change, I want my home to be a haven. Well, there is a lot of drama at the moment in this building and it appears I got partially sucked in. It all happened when my neighbor - split up with her best friend, and also her boyfriend, both of which happen to live here in this building. I'm not particularly close to either of those people, but I know them/am pleasant with them. So, my neighbor invites me over ' vents to me. I'm fine with that. She's a nice lady and it must be hard to have to see both the ex-bestie and the ex-boyfriend on a regular basis. One night, she gives me a whole bunch of things. I didn't ask for these things. I didn't suggest that I wanted any of these things. She offered. Fairly high dollar items, too. *a Roku player, *a handful of very nice agates, *a set of fairy lights (new), *a stained glass panel (granted that was given to her by someone else because it had a broken frame that I fixed for myself)… so I accepted. Maybe I shouldn't have, but I did. And a few times I've given her things too as a way of saying thanks. Some baking I did, and a handmade necklace that I make. I make these necklaces and sell them for $11 ea. / 2 for $20. I love making them, and I figure I have less than $1 into each one, so I make a bit of money and they get out there in the world and prevent me from having hundreds made up. Ha! (Technical note: please know this is only for the continuation of the story. I'm not trying to promote nor sell them on My lot.) So a few days ago, my neighbor comes to my door with a grand daughter, (cute kid) . She explains that she gave the necklace that I made for her, to her daughter. And now the grand daughter would really like one, too and could I give her another one to give to grand daughter? At first I thought she might offer to pay - but it quickly became apparent that payment was not offered. "So can I get a necklace rope for this one"? she continues as I handed over the pendant. I said no to that. Pendant ropes are the most putsy part of this process. As she was leaving she tells me that she "will take another 2 or 3 pendants " to give as gifts and told me to be happy that "they're popular already". Oh great. They're popular enough for people to want to take them for free. I'm flattered. Anyway I don't know how to feel about this. I like to do small acts of kindness. (A favorite is I put $1 with a little note at $1 stores to brighten someone's day) - and I mean, like I said - I have less than $1 into each one, so it's not like it's a big amount of money.... but her attitude frustrates me. She doesn't ask. She doesn't even offer to pay.... she just demands. "I'll take 2 -3 more of those"? Oh you will, will you? She also asked me on other occasions that she wanted me to give her my crochet hooks (uhm no... I'm using those thank you very much), and if I was busy around my home she said she would take my car for the day. (Excuse me?) that one I laughed off like a joke, but I was fairly sure that she wasn't kidding.) It brings me back to second grade. One of my little classmates walked up to me one day. She handed me a dirty pink wristwatch. This is for you! She announced. Now tomorrow you have to give me a gift in return. Happily enough my parents caught me that evening digging through my jewelry trying to think of what to give this little girl. When I explained the story, they told me that it doesn't or shouldn't work like that. People who give gifts and then demand gifts in return shouldn't be bartered with. I think I offered the little girl her watch back, and told her that I didn't want to give away my belongings. I forget if she took it back, or no. It seemed like a good childish ploy for the girl to "trade off" items she didn't like in hopes of getting ones she did as "return gifts". Now , that might be excusable in a young child. But it seems my neighbor who is 60s-70s is trying the same thing. Anyway I would feel sort of guilty for asking her to pay for jewelry since she gave me so many items. On the other hand I don't think it gives her the right to come to my home and just sort of demand I give her specific things. Has anyone done this to you? How would you deal with it? Photo is of one of my painted glass works