I NEED ONE GOOD NEWS IN MY LIFE...
By Myesha
@Shatay (66)
Nigeria
October 29, 2018 5:44pm CST
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost four years now and he dont seem to even try to make an effort for commitment. He always talks about our future together and how he loves me but no action,i really love him but i dont want to waste more years because i want to settle down and have my kids my age is going and i can not afford to waste more years. I have no job also for 6 months now i can not find any, i even tried online jobs but nothing. Is it me or does sometimes everything is not falling into place as we hoped they would be? Life gets so hard and complicated i feel i need to share and hear your thoughts and advice.
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11 responses
@septabchips (1142)
• Nigeria
30 Oct 18
Since you said you love him, why not try and sit him down and really hear from him. He may have some reservations you know?
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@Shatay (66)
• Nigeria
30 Oct 18
Thank you,i thought of that as well so when we spoke on the phone because we are in different states, he said his very serious and that he discussed it with his family and their preparing. Am not trying to push him or anything but i just feel like is one excuse after the other for years now and i really dont care about big wedding or expensive things i believe that is all in the future we can build together i dont care about money never had. After this year i will have to move on to a serious person who thinks like i do
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@anya12adwi (6040)
• India
31 Oct 18
It is evident from your post that you wanna settle down but you don't know about your bf.. Ask him about his future plans related to you.. Try to get what is actually he is having for you in his mind.. You said that he says about his future about you which means that he is surely having some plans but might not be ready now..
@Shatay (66)
• Nigeria
3 Nov 18
Yes exactly. He keeps saying his planning and his family and he always plans his future with me and keep praying for the day to come soon. And he always say things like he loves me and he wants to be with me. But i will give him some time in the way if i get fed up i just move on. I never asked for him to spend money so he can keep complaining about financial issues as his reason of not making commitment.
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@MorrisS (125)
• Rayne, Louisiana
31 Oct 18
You may not want to hear this but if he's not ready for what you are ready for you may have to cut your losses and move on with your life. You have to think about you and what makes you happy. He may not be in the same mind set that you are. But that's ok... you still have time to work on yourself. Trust me having kids without steady money is a pain. I had my first when I had no job and it was very very hard I don't know how I got through those years. Blind luck I guess. But yea work on yourself first and before you know it you will be raising your family in no time.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
5 Nov 18
if i were you i'd decide how much time you're gonna give him,and tell him why you're concerned.if he doesn't want to commit or at least discuss it,it might be time to move on if you want kids.
@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
3 Nov 18
It will in the perfect time. Don't rush things out. There's still a spot for you, don't lose hope.
@Nickzter1331 (4229)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Welcome to mylot.
Just be strong to face your struggles right now. It will pass.
@debjani1 (7207)
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30 Oct 18
Discuss openly with your boyfriend about this. Tell your opinion . Do you believe in live in relationship? If yes then ask your bf. The life must go on. If he is not interested in any of the following then move on your way. I am sure u are bold enough to face all the situations of your life. ALL THE BEST.
