Should I ever get married again?

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November 15, 2018 4:36pm CST
I'm fixing to be getting a divorce and worried about if I should ever get married again. I heard that you don't have to get married and things will be just fine. That many couple have lived together for over 15-20 years without ever getting married.
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24 responses
@Plethos (13560)
• United States
15 Nov 18
one step at a time. your thinking too far ahead. first step is divorce. second is distance from divorce day. third is to enjoy the new life, your second single life.
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@hillhjill (23664)
• United States
15 Nov 18
It's up to you on how you feel about it. I know many people that have been married more than once.
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@db20747 (43434)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
15 Nov 18
or thrice!!
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@hillhjill (23664)
• United States
15 Nov 18
@db20747 sometimes more than that.
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@youless (112146)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Nov 18
It is up to you. But failing one marriage doesn't mean you will fail it again. Perhaps you will learn a lesson from your previous marriage and then it will be helpful for your next marriage since you won't make some same mistakes again. If you meet the right one, that's fine to get married again.
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@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
27 Nov 18
You've heard right. There are people who do that. Some people marry because it's advantageous tax-wise.
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
16 Nov 18
@youless has very well answered. One failure doesn't mean the end. We can always learn, be cautious and be more productive in the next one. Life has mamy chances for us.
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@Hannihar (129625)
• Israel
28 Nov 18
@ChrisEaves First of all you are just getting divorced so do not think about getting married yet. You should only remarry if that is what you want to do and find the right person for you. I think it also depends on the circumstances of why you got divorced. I am divorced many years and never wanted to remarry. All I want to say is that I had a very bad marriage in many ways and it was good we divorced.
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@Hannihar (129625)
• Israel
6 Dec 18
@TishaMears Thanks Tisha. I wanted to get married to the right person and have a family but none of that worked out. I did get animals out of the relationship and I loved them dearly. I am not reason to get married again and anyway I do not see anyone that really interests me.
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• United States
6 Dec 18
@Hannihar You're welcome. I feel the same way at the moment. I don't even wanna be bothered with anyone at this time, either.
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• United States
5 Dec 18
@ChrisEaves I agree with @Hannihar the most and alot of others here. I had a bad marriage and feel that I might not ever wanna get remarried at the moment. But I also will never say never. I also agree with @MALUSE about marriage being advantageous tax-wise. I kinda miss that factor now that I'm also divorced, but money isn't everything. I'm rather happy and better off single than stuck in a marriage just for the tax benefits. If you find love again, just take it as it comes. Whatever you may feel comfortable doing.
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@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
16 Nov 18
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@wunnam (552)
• Ghana
15 Nov 18
I will advice that you have to take your time and observe the behaviour of the girl that you intend before you plan for the marriage.
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• New Baltimore, Michigan
16 Nov 18
Things are ALWAYS fine when you're not married. (Then again, I don't know what it feels like to be married. But I'd imagine it's close to hell.)
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
17 Nov 18
it depends on you chris.
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@theend (2778)
• Gifu, Japan
16 Nov 18
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16 Nov 18
Maybe you should give yourself time, be comfortable being single again before getting into another relationship. There's at least two in my family who went through the same thing. They remarried but it still didn't work because they weren't really ready yet.
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16 Nov 18
Honestly, just take one step at a time and who knows what life has in store. What if tomorrow you meet someone amazing and you get married again or not. It's your life and you should enjoy it to the fullest and live it up to your standards. Take it one step at a time I bet you will find what your looking for and what is meant to Be! I wish you nothing but the best !!
• Surabaya, Indonesia
27 Nov 18
How it can happen, Live together but not married
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@Keyia120 (1134)
• United States
16 Nov 18
Yeah, if you find someone that does not want to get married then don't. Yes, there are a lot of couples that are not married and it works great for them. There are couples that have been together 50 plus years and don't have the married title on paper. I mean take it one step at a time, because sometimes you may want to be by yourself first before getting into a relationship so quick or getting married again. Marriage is still important to many people and that is why I am married because I am from a family of preachers and marriage is still important to us. I tolerate no disrespect or anything. I have already told myself if my marriage didn't work out I am done period. I will be single and I am 29 right now haha. We are happily married though...Marriage has problems and they always will and just because you are not married won't mean you won't have issues or be in the same situation, but it beats going through court and all of that mess. Good Luck to you and I hope you think about it and just have your mind set on you for now after you get a divorce and enjoy your single life and do some self care.
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
16 Nov 18
Here in our place divorce is not allowed... We respect marriage and should be sacred cause you do swear it with God and you are as one body and what God has make as one body let no man put it asunder...
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@Janet357 (75656)
16 Nov 18
My answer is the same as plethos’
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• Philippines
16 Nov 18
Oh well, it depends. Just take it slow.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 18
I agree with the others here.
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@ethal2018 (387)
• United States
16 Nov 18
No you don't have to. I got divorce and I have been with my domestic partner for 30 yrs in December. We get along great..