In a relationship for a long time or getting married right away?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
December 8, 2018 11:42pm CST
Which is which?
I was caught in this question.
I have a close friend who wanted to get married maybe next year. I think she is obsessed with the idea of getting married right away. She and her boyfriend are been together for like 6 years. And during those years, they are having a rough and tough time. They broke up and get back again, then broke up and get back again. Insanely I feel I was the one who gets tired of the way they handle themselves about their relationship.
In my case, I always have a long relationship with boyfriends, the first love I had was 9 years, and I thought I will end up with him. My relationship with the boyfriend now is going 9 years too, but we don't have plans of getting tied up yet because of responsibilities and also money is so tight because of my medication. But as a girl, I also dream of having a simple wedding. At least before I die.
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
9 Dec 18
i highly recommend living together for awhile first.
some people can change radically in a short time.and if you already married them,you're screwed.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
9 Dec 18
My husband and I got married when we had been together one year. Next year we have been married for 10 years. We lived together before we got married. My husband moved into my apartment 4 months after our first meeting and our families thought that it was too soon, but it was the right decision for us.
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@LadyDuck (458230)
• Switzerland
9 Dec 18
I got married 7 months after I started to date with my husband. Living together before getting married was not an option, my parents were very strict about this. We wanted to be together all the time, we got married. My brother waited 10 years before getting married... they divorced, we are still together after 47 years.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
9 Dec 18
Me and my wife was into relationship of two years before living together, and after 10 years we got married.
Sometimes the question depend on the age of the involved lovers. If they're young they probably wait for some years but if they are getting older, lets say 33 years old above, they sometimes plan for the wedding already.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Dec 18
I agree with this as well. It will always be depending on what age the two lovers are if they are young, I think the best is to get to know more of themselves first. But if they are at a perfect age, then they need to think about it a hundred times more.
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
9 Dec 18
I believe in love, but I do not believe in marriage. I married when I was 18 and divorced after two years.
