Being A SAHM and Homesick
By Lakeyia
@Keyia120 (1134)
United States
December 15, 2018 7:32pm CST
I just want to say that it is great being at home cause I can go to my kid's school events and everything, but when I always think about when will I be able to start my Career? When my son was in karate I was able to take him and sit with him but since they are not doing sports or anything I just take them to school come home and help them with homework and then I am here on the weekend with everyone sitting.
You know my kids are now in school both of them and I have been at home for years now which sucks for me because the more I am here the harder it will be for me to get work. I rely on my writing and everything just to keep me sane. I am not always like this but since I have been turned down for so many jobs I am becoming really sad and everything. I love writing and being here on mylot which all of you have been so kind. I am glad that I am meeting new people each and every day.
I know some may not want to hear things like this but I am just venting a little bit because I am really sad right now. I moved to another state from Texas cause I am a military spouse and you know my husband has friends because he is becoming a veterans biker club member and he works, but me no one really wants to just get together here in this area. many of the moms are SAHM too and have kids so I usually try and take my boys so they can play you know.
I am always thinking about if I am going to have a career before I get any older or if my writing will take off so I can actually have something of my own. I am 29 and I have not worked since I had my 9-year-old son. I was about 19 or so and I just feel that the things that everyone else gets to do by themselves I can't because I am home with the kids. I want to do things by myself too and just have some fun with someone. I just need one or two friends you know lol. I want to ask some moms out here in myLot and dads in the mylot world if you don't mind sharing and dads too. If you were SAHM or a SAHD when did you get a career or did you already have one?
If you are military do you still stay home by choice or is it something that you have to do because there are no other options?
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3 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Dec 18
I absolutely love being a stay at home mom. God has blessed me with this role and I'm so grateful for it!
I met some friends in the past from babysitting and going to church. =)
I also Home School my children which keeps me plenty busy.
I love Mylot because I feel it gives me the adult time I look for now and then. It works for me very well.
I hope you can find happiness in the incredible role you were given.
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@Keyia120 (1134)
• United States
16 Dec 18
I am glad that you love it and it is working for you I have worked since I was 16 so I am so used to working and I believe in 50/50 when it comes to trying to help with the bills. I have also been diagnosed with chronic migraines, which gives me panic attacks and anxiety. I am trying to find more happiness within the role and that is why I have been coming back to mylot and writing more. I am so in love with my writing and I am working on a Novel as we speak. I am going to start going back to church because that is one place I grew up in and my family are ministers til this day.
Thank you for sharing your experience and I hope that you have a wonderful time with your kiddos and being a stay at home mother. It is a great opportunity and I love being able to go to their school events and just participating in their classes when needed. My kids have been on IEP program well my oldest and he needs so much help so I am always in meetings and my youngest has a speech delay so he needs help as well. I am so happy that I am at home to do this because if I had to work I am sure I wouldn't be able to make the meets and everything.
@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
16 Dec 18
I think being a SAHM is good. It makes sure that kids are well nurtured growing up. Unfortunately both my parents were working while I was growing up as financial situations demanded so. Growing up I was sad everytime they miss out on my school events.
As I grew up I understood why but if I were to have kids one day I would want one parent to stay at home. My partner could be a SAHD.
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