First OT appointment and a good day for my son

@sissy15 (5846)
United States
January 12, 2019 1:10am CST
We have had more ups and downs with my son's behavior than I can even begin to get into. Today my son came home super happy because he got the PRIDE award at his school which is an award they get for being a good person. They get a slip of paper they fill out every time they do something good and it's noticed and they put those slips into a drawing and at the end of every week, they draw a few names and those kids are awarded and my son was awarded this week. He said he was also called down to the office for good behavior in another teacher's classroom. The teacher was his teacher last year as she moved to the second grade and my son still goes to her classroom for certain activities every day. He was bad in her class the one day and she clipped him down, but she recognized his good behavior and rewarded him for it today. He went from a bad color yesterday on their behavior chart to doing really well today. My son also had his first OT appointment today and the therapist told us that he seemed like he's a people pleaser and she was shocked the school hadn't used that to their advantage when dealing with his behavior. She also said it wouldn't take much for them to accommodate him to help with his behavior and she was surprised they hadn't done anything. She seemed annoyed when I told her how he clipped down on the behavior chart after he wouldn't let other kids help him clean. She said that could have been avoided by knowing that's a trigger and making sure he gets to clean alone. She said there were so many easy solutions they could do to make things better for him at school and she was so surprised they hadn't done anything to help him. My son's behavior at home has been amazing. He's been so good for us but he still struggles at school. My little boy is so amazingly sweet and caring and it hurts me that he is hurting. His feelings are hurt so easily and I feel like with just a bit of effort on their part he could be doing so much better.
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@JudyEv (147789)
• Bunbury, Australia
12 Jan
Is there another school nearby that might be better suited to his needs?
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@sissy15 (5846)
• United States
12 Jan
No, for the most part, he goes to a good school. This is the first time we've had any real issues with it. He goes to probably the best elementary school for his needs. The other elementary schools in the area don't have the specialists his does. I really like his principal, albeit I miss the one they had previously as she used to be the guidance counselor at my old elementary school when I was a kid and she remembered me despite the fact that I rarely saw her but I think she knew of my issues and maybe that history could have helped in my son's case I don't know. The current principal got on it as soon as we gave her the note to start the evaluation. I honestly think a lot of this is due to the teachers this year. They don't seem to have it together because he started the year with a substitute and then his actual teacher came back and it's like they just didn't swap notes or anything. I honestly think if he had his teacher from last year full time we would have more answers, he didn't have this trouble last year and she stayed on top of things and would actually talk to us about concerns and he was thriving in her class so that really makes me think the teachers dropped the ball this year and aren't willing to work with him the way his teacher last year was.
@JudyEv (147789)
• Bunbury, Australia
12 Jan
@sissy15 That is a great shame. It's awful that you had hopes last year that his needs were being met but now they are not so much.
@Janet357 (7576)
12 Jan
How old is your son by the way?
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@sissy15 (5846)
• United States
12 Jan
He just turned 8 a couple of months ago. He's in 2nd grade.
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@Janet357 (7576)
12 Jan
@sissy15 oh critical age, people around him should say encouraging or kind words not to criticize him. I know what you feel towards that therapist.
@jstory07 (73819)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Jan
The school needs to do more to help him than they are doing now.
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@sissy15 (5846)
• United States
12 Jan
I'm working on making them. I'm hoping things go well at his reevaluation next week.
@Shavkat (69491)
• Philippines
12 Jan
I think OT session will be a good choice and the rest will follow
@banksim (2944)
12 Jan
hope all things improve with time