Backseat driver
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
April 21, 2019 1:55pm CST
My husband is a very responsible and experienced driver. He worked as a truck driver for several years and he got his licence 35 years ago. One of our friends constantly gives him unwanted advice when he is driving. A few examples:
"You are driving too fast here" (he wasn't, but our friend misread the sign)
"Why are you going that way? It is much faster to drive the other way" (not true, we live here and we know the area better than our friend)
"It is not necessary to pay when you use this parking lot" (great idea - if you want to get a parking ticket)
My husband is much more patient and diplomatic that I am. I would have lost my patience long time ago.
How do you react when people give you unwanted advice about your way of driving?
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14 responses
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Apr 19
I understand. I don't drive, but I know that I would be nervous as well and it would be harder to focus.
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@WiseGhots (14607)
•
21 Apr 19
"Excuse me? I'm the drive here."
Something like that, haha!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Apr 19
Good answer 
It can be annoying to listen to those comments over and over.
It can be annoying to listen to those comments over and over.2 people like this
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
I don't drive either. My husband always drives our car. I don't comment on the way he drives. I know that he is a responsible driver and my comments would make it harder to concentrate while he is driving.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Apr 19
@LadyDuck In that case would also say something and warn him, but I never criticize his way of driving.
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@LadyDuck (459267)
• Switzerland
23 Apr 19
@Porcospino I keep my mouth shut unless I notice a danger that my husband did not notice.
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@wolfgirl569 (95748)
• Marion, Ohio
21 Apr 19
I usually ask them if they would prefer to walk.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Apr 19
I like that. It can be very annoying to listen to those comments.2 people like this
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
It is good that he stopped doing it. It is annoying to listen to that kind of comments. Most of our friends don't do it, but one friend does it all the time. He has a comment about everything.
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@nela13 (55734)
• Portugal
26 Apr 19
@Porcospino It also makes us nervous while driving which is not good.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
Yes, unwanted advice isn't a good thing. One of our friends does it a lot. He always comments on the way my husband drives and gives him suggestions that he doesn't need.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Apr 19
@Sheali I agree. He always talks a lot, but the comments about my husband's way of driving don't help at all.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
Yes, that is true. My husband got annoyed when he got all those comments, and they didn't improve his mood, but he is very polite.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
Posting it here would be a good idea My husband doesn't argue with our friend, but he get annoyed when our friends comments on his way of driving and tells him to do things in a different way.
My husband doesn't argue with our friend, but he get annoyed when our friends comments on his way of driving and tells him to do things in a different way.1 person likes this
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Apr 19
That sounds my husband's situation. He has a lot of experience, and he has only had one accident. It happened because of the snow and ice and not because he wasn't careful. I would say the same thing as you. If they aren't happy with the way we do things, it might be time to find a different type of transportation.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
21 Apr 19
It could be annoying! The driver could not concentrate well.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
Yes, that is the problem. It is hard to concentrate when we have to listen to that type of comments. I know that my husband finds it annyoing to listen to our friend's comments.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
I understand. I don't drive, but I think that I would get nervous as well. It would be hard to concentrate on driving.
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@fluffybear (77)
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22 Apr 19
It's annoying to me when someone giving me unwanted advice when i driving, i can't concentrate driving.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Apr 19
I don't drive, but I would find it annoying as well. One of our friends does it all the time, and my husband doesn't need to his advice or suggestions.
