Why are so many couples deciding against marriage?

United States
September 11, 2006 9:43pm CST
In my day, a pregnancy out of wedlock was unplanned and almost automatically meant a marriage was soon to follow. Today, couples seem to plan on having the baby and decide against marriage even tho they seem to love each other. They live together, go on to raise a family, even buy a home - but do not marry. Why? Can anyone explain this to me?
5 responses
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
8 Nov 06
I think it is the fear of divorce.
• United States
8 Nov 06
Divorce is expensive. One attorney I know asks for a $10,000 retainer up front. I guess that could make you think twice. But if you are going to live together and have children and accumulate stuff together......you are emotionally and financially committed anyway.
• Canada
31 Oct 06
my parents have done the same thing. my mother was married before and thought that marriage would ruin everything. she is 54 happy and will still never get married
• United States
8 Nov 06
At least she had something to compare. I know some people are embittered in marriage and vow never again. They still get involved in relationships that are just as binding as a marriage. Emotionally, they still can't walk away. But, they keep that illusion of freedom. Maybe I answered my own question. They have the illusion of freedom. LOL.
@magikrose (5425)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Alot of people dont what to have to deal with the birden of divorce. Ifthey dont get married then if things sont work out they are free to go there seperate ways.
• United States
8 Nov 06
They may not have to deal with divorce, but they still have to separate the furniture, the bills, set up the child support and visitation for the kids. From where I sit, they still have all the trauma and drama of marriage.
@Schubler (1530)
• Romania
24 Sep 06
Because more and more couples have reached a level at which they know if their marriage is going to last or no... this is better than a divorce... which can effect the kid if one`s involved...
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. But I don't see the relationships lasting any longer, either way.
24 Sep 06
Many see marriage as an expensive luxury. Being married or not doesn’t increase the emotions each have, or making the child grow up right or wrong, that’s down to the personalities of each.
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. They still seem to go through the same nasty break up (minus the court battle) when the relationship is over. The child still suffers as if a divorce had taken place.