Your Take on Your children's Decisions!
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@anya12adwi (6040)
India
October 9, 2019 12:16pm CST
It is very important that your children should be able to take their own decisions!!
And as parents, it must be your responsibility to make them feel empower enough to make decisions regarding what kind of dress they wanna buy, what kind of shoes they wanna buy!!
As parents, one should not over-power on their kid's thinking ability or reasoning and logic.. If they are going wrong, you try to make them aware about the 2 side of coins, their consequences, their effect on themselves as well as on others!! Taking even the smallest decisions on behalf of kids will always make them either under-confident or too dependent on others!
I am telling my story! While I was in class 10th, I had two cloth pieces and I gave those to the tailor stating her what designs I wanted! I thought my mom would be proud of me.. But when she saw those dresses, she was angry and asked not to make such decisions without asking her.. I was hurt, like I was not expecting this but somewhere knew this would happen..
And there are many stuffs which I cannot elaborate and as a result, I am living my life in a cage!! I have fought to take small decisions in my life but it draws out lot of energy from me!! I still cannot take bigger decisions of my life.. I live and am alive in hope that I don't become such parent to my kids! Hope I become a better and the best mom to my kids existing in future..
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Oct 19
It's nice when parents give their children the responsibility to decide.
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@anya12adwi (6040)
• India
9 Oct 19
Yes, as a child, you feel like, you know, these are small small milestones to a journey to teenage or adulthood..
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Oct 19
The child feels like a new adult.
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@anya12adwi (6040)
• India
9 Oct 19
@Alexandoy Not exactly adult, but he/she feels more happier and confident!
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@anya12adwi (6040)
• India
14 Oct 19
Exactly, parents are the first set of persons who can empower their kids and can help them be ready to deal with the real world..
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
9 Oct 19
Children should be taught to make their own decisions. Even if the decision is something the parent disagrees with.
When my daughter was 15 she wanted to get her belly button pierced. I of course was against it, but I didn't tell her "NO!!".
Instead, I sat her down and asked her why she wanted to get this done. After she told me, I discussed my fears with her and discussed all the pros and cons of accepting such a responsibility. I also told her that if she decides to get her belly button pierced, I will not pay for it. She will have to find her own way of paying for it, be it saving her birthday and christmas money, getting a babysitting job or delivering newspapers/flyers after school. I am not paying for her to something to her body that I disagree with.
In the end, she didn't get her belly button pierced. She decided for herself and I still got it my way.
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@anya12adwi (6040)
• India
9 Oct 19
I wanted a tattoo, I asked my mom, she said, first get married, then ask your hubby if he allows! I was like what is this fish! Though, I thought of having temporary tattoo!! But I will have one in future, when I get a job..
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