I told Daniel that I would not have him next year.
By marguicha
@marguicha (217144)
Chile
January 10, 2020 7:42am CST
It was with a mixure of guilt, pity or him and for me that I decided that Daniel and I could not live together, much as I loved him.
He has not done any chore in the house in the 3 months he has stayed here. And he does not live as if this was a family.
I am not used to hippies even if I love him. I told him so. His parents will blame me but they are not willing to have him live at their house.
He is almost 28, but he is not responsible for his life yet. Whatever he chooses to do, he should know that nothing is free and nothing must be taken for granted.
He has a problem and he is depressed so he will have to be helped. But not by me; by his parents.
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@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
10 Jan 20
Who is Daniel? I hate to see irresponsible people
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
He is my eldest grandson. And I think that my daughter has brought him up that way.
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@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
10 Jan 20
@marguicha ok dear hope he mends his ways
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
that was also our topic during our family reunion - grandparents helping grandchildren. i agree with shaggin - you've already given him a chance and his parents have seen how it's going so far. if they won't take him in or help him, they shouldn't force you either.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
It is easier for them to have him at my house.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
@hereandthere I will see if I can talk to my daughter today.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
I agree. I cannot do more for him. And Now I don´t even have Leticia to help me.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
@LadyDuck Either he finds it or his parents help him.
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@LadyDuck (462807)
• Switzerland
11 Jan 20
@marguicha He has to find another solution and it's not up to you to take care of this matter.
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@rakski (112924)
• Philippines
11 Jan 20
that is sad to hear that but that is reality. I think you already extended help to him by allowing him to stay there. But he has to know that staying in a place not his will entail responsibility. His parents is responsible for him first and foremost before anyone else. If they cannot or would not have him, then who can?
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
I think that at his age he should be wholly responsible for himself. But anyway it is not my problem.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
His parents should help him get back on his feet. How are you related to him?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
11 Jan 20
@marguicha Oh! Will you have company in case he leaves?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Jan 20
@marguicha I also want to live alone because I feel I am losing my mind with all the drama and toxicity with "loved" (ironically) ones. I am glad to hear that it is possible.
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@xFiacre (12585)
• Ireland
10 Jan 20
@marguicha People should not be allowed to just live off others, although they certainly need a bit of understanding if they re unwell. It's called being a normal adult. If someone refuses to help even though they are capable they need to move on.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
I think so too. He is intelligent and has had problems with his partner. But I think that things would have been different if both had been been more generous with each other.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
10 Jan 20
Gee 28 and still like that? I feel sorry for him.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
@Alexandoy He works in his own way and doesn´t smoke or even drink much. But he doesn´t know the word tidy and I want order in my home.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@marguicha you don't need to feel sorry for yourself. I know that you love Daniel but it's not your fault that he became like that. Some kids become wayward because they are that way. My eldest nephew is worse than Daniel, much worse and we blame no one but him.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
I´m probably outdated, but that´s how I feel.
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@JohnRoberts (109848)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Jan 20
He has to go out and learn to live on his own.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
It is something between his parents and him. He was on his own for some years a couple of years ago. But I´m too old to be part of this.
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@LindaOHio (161194)
• United States
11 Jan 20
You tried. You don't need to have more to do because he doesn't do his share. He is 28 and old enough to be responsible.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
He was not brought up as he should. It happens a lot nowadays.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
12 Jan 20
@LindaOHio He is a nice young man though. But I cannot live with him.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
It seems to me that in part he has been brought up in a very different way.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
11 Jan 20
@CarolDM I was brought up old fashioned as compared to what happens now.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Jan 20
@marguicha That happens sadly.
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@happylife1 (13404)
• Karachi, Pakistan
10 Jan 20
let him learn and grow ........hopefully he will be able to do attitude
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
He is intelligent. But his parents should let him grow
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@Marwahkha (132)
• Peshawar, Pakistan
10 Jan 20
treat him with love and try to understand him figure out his depression reason and make him solve his problems of depression.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
I love him and I told him so. But his parents have to do that job.
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@marguicha (217144)
• Chile
10 Jan 20
@Marwahkha He is a loved person. Only he has to realize that.
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@Marwahkha (132)
• Peshawar, Pakistan
10 Jan 20
@marguicha best of luck to his parents
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